My boyfriend still texts his ex...help?

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Hi guys. Ive been with my boyfriend for 9 months now, and he was in a relationship before for about 2 years..she cheated on him more than 4 times, and only 2 of which he knows of. She finished it over a year ago.. She went to university and has now got another boyfriend who she has been with for a year, and in the beginning of mine and my boyfriends relationship, she texted him saying she wished she was with him again, which i just ignored. I know my boyfriend would never do anything to me, we love each other with all our hearts. At first i thought that them texting was normal cos they had been going out for a while before so i didnt just expect them to stop talking completely. My boyfriend told me she texts him asking to go out for drinks and things with him, i get so angry because i want to know just what her own boyfriend would think of this. Ant says he hates her for what she did to him, but if he hated her that much then why would he text her back? HELP IS THIS NORMAL?:(

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Just tell him to tell her to back off and that she's ruining your relationship.

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  • ccjigsaw
    12 years ago

    Sometimes this is caused by "Lack of closure" He might have un finished bussiness, things he wanted to say to her. But you know what, it sounds like this is ruining your relationship, and if he loves you he'll end that. Time to leave the past in the past. I'll bet you anything talking to her hurts him alot, and he's being emo about it. It has to stop

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  • Blackwargreymon
    12 years ago

    What is so wrong? Hehe, it is your bf ex, so they probably have things in common/like spending time together. My ex comes over for dinner now and then, my other ex and I always hang out and play games. Even another ex sleeps over once in a while, or I at her place.

    My gf doesn't mind at all. Because she trusts me, and so do you right? That is what you said in your story, right? Then why worry/mind?

    Btw, I wouldn't mess with his phone, certainly not delete things. If I would find out, and I would, you would be in serious trouble. Such an act can be a dealbreaker for a relationship. Trust and privacy are very important.

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  • istrawberry
    12 years ago

    Tell the ex-gf to GTFO and tell your boyfriend to quit texting the slut, because it'll ruin your relationship.

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  • chadams
    12 years ago

    Get him to change his number and not give it to her

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  • laurabarker93
    12 years ago

    yeah thanks guys. ive told him before that i dont like it and he was totally okay about it, and agreed to stop texting her. then the other day he was texting her about my christmas present (which i read), why!

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    • Quiblum
      12 years ago

      maybe he wanted a female opinion because he cares so much about you and wanted to get an amazing present.

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    • joybird
      12 years ago

      Your bf is trying to be a decent person by replying but really I agree with chadams, he should change his number or ignore her texts and stop being civil. His manners are wasted on her and unless he plans to get back with her, their 'friendship' is a waste of his time and energy. All he is managing to do is annoy you - so it needs to stop.

      Delete any texts you see coming in from her and if you put an X before her name she will go to the end of his phone book list. He can then see who the call / text is and so choose to ignore it.

      He should just say, "Sorry I'm really busy with (gf) have no time to text you again. Bye"

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  • Quiblum
    12 years ago

    Tell him your feelings. I'm sure if he likes you, he'll feel flattered by your jealousy. And if you're really out for revenge, text her boyfriend and tell him about this. Also, yours might still be into her...

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