My boyfriend smokes to much weed!

im really worrid about my boyfriend he smokes to much weed! his addiction is that bad if he had the choice to buy food or weed, weed wud b his top choice.
ive tried to tell im 2 quit and get help but he wont lisen to me! the only time we ever argue is when he hasnt had a spliff beacuse he throws tantrums ova it. when he hasnt got a spliff he turns violent, he has never hit me but he has smashed his room up many times!
ANYONE IN THE SAME POSITION? IF SO PLEASE HELP!!

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  • moosedog_ck

    Let him smoke his herb. If you don't like it so much, leave him. Don't go trying to change people.

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  • what are you doing with this loser you will have no life or future untill you get rid of this prick. Why do you young girls put up with these losers

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  • jason2098

    hey how are u i actually know where u are comming from as i am a smoker myself have been for along time now and my partner wants me to give up that stuff but its easyer said than done except when i dont have any i dont get voilent i use to get abit angry but woulndt get voilent so its pretty addictve mabey u should talk to ur boyfriend and ask him to cut down on it and not have as much and then quit .tell him how much u love him and how much its hurting u seeing him stoned all the time well hope this help good luck with the travel

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    • xholliebx

      hey jason, thanks for the advice but the thing is i have tryed everythin, i mean.. i know this sounds stupid but in december i brought him a christmas advent calender and took out all the chocolates and told him to put enough weed for a spliff in each compartment and he could have one a day until christmas and see if that helped him cut down but one a day wasnt enough and he was soon back to his usual amount and up until i found out he was still smoking it behind my back.. we dont live together and everytime i asked him how much he has he denyed it but i could tell beacuse i could smell it in the house and also by the amount of money he had! nothing helps =(

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  • sonu2553

    weeds or ganja are best euphoric thing ever !....they are like daily meal to me !.....jay bholey baba !.....
    "whwn you smoke the herbs,it reveals you to yourself !...."-"Bob Marley" ......

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  • pgroom

    the weed is not the problem it is you boyfriends personality
    weed is not physical addictive it can be mentally if he lets it be

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  • AfroMarx

    Where do you get this "addiction" from? Marijuana is not addictive. the reason he's a twat when he doesnt have weed is because.. well.. hes a twat. but hes not addicted.

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  • XxjuggalettexX

    Do you really want to be with someone who is dependent on a substance? I have been here and let me tell you its not fun and it gets worse. The violence will get worse, the tantrums, on and on. Try to get him to realize that he needs help. Like rehab or something of the sort. If he won't do it for you, then hes not worth it, there will be another person out there who could treat you so much better. Trust me. He either kicks the habit or you kick him out of your life. Thats the only thing you can do. Period.

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    • xholliebx

      thank you i will try! and to be honest i have took alot of peoples advice off here and its working! =]

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  • villagers321

    just start smoking buds yourself or leave him. he's not going to quit. he probably makes fun of you with his friends because your worried about him "smoking weed"

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  • gamerx365

    smoking weed is fun. maybe hes got nothing better to do. i would probably choose weed over food too, but then again its a shitty high if you can't eat. ugh...

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  • noname4me

    WEED IS FUUUN! SLET HIM SMOKE IN PEACE AND STOP KILLING HIS BUZZ! but if hes gna be a dick about it, just dump him. Solo trips r no fun anyways so he'll get his just deserts.

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  • kuro_inzen

    there is no such thing as too much pot.

    stoners of the world, unite.. and get me some god damn twinkies.

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  • AnonymousMouse

    is your boyfriend black? if so, it's normal. if not, it's not normal.

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  • tumblrprincess

    YOUR BOYFRIEND CAN NEVER SMOKE TOO MUCH WEED!!! IMPOSSIBLE YOUR QUESTION IS NOT VALID

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  • SamuraiPeeper

    You can't get addicted to marijuana. Don't blame a harmless, lovable, imminently charming little plant for your boyfriend's being an asshole. If he's only cool when he's had a spliff, that's because weed can make anyone a better person.

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  • 100Spoon

    Tell him it's either you or the pot.

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  • crimson1211

    Just let the man smoke his weed... It ain't gonna kill him it's not addictive like crack

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  • VIP

    It's not addicting.

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  • SomeoneYouMightKnow

    My girlfriend smoked a lot of weed, and I argued with her a lot over it but I guess once they start, they can't stop. Don't even waste your time trying to tell him what's right, he won't listen anyway.

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  • gako

    Move on. And this time don't find a pot head.

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  • judgemenot

    And this is the type of person u wanna be with?? I'm sorry ur an idiot. I woulda beeeen left that loser.

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  • kamilion

    marijuana isn't addictive and there are no withdrawals, so he is breaking things and flipping out and doing this shit because thats who he is. imo when someone flips out over something like marijuana or anything when they don't have it, they're just proving that they are stupid brats. if you're concerned he will hit you, and you are based on what you wrote, leave him. do you want to put up with his bs becasue he doesn't have weed handy. thats ridiculous. does he scare you into buying the weed for him?

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  • sgbslp

    Dump him. Side stream smoke is harmful
    To you ,

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  • gnome

    why dont u just break up with him? i would haha

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  • proudbitch

    hes a prick to you.
    if he wont give it up for you then he ovbs dont give a shit.
    end itt.

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  • JustBeGlad

    if i have a girl like you i would give up that sh**t and married you lol

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  • IveGotBallsOfSteal

    dump the loser.

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  • LA_Woman

    Been there done that! You need to give him an ultimatum.Either you or the excessive pot.But ultimately it's up to you if you wanna live with that..if you don't plan on spending the rest of your life with him,I say break it off as soon as you can so you can move on.

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  • KottonMouthxx

    lol hate to tell you but not all potheads are like him or anything close to anything like him. I smoke weed but i also grow it so its practically free. If i had a job where i wasnt making the bills paying for food and pot then i wouldve cut back on the pot a little, the dude has an underlying problem he needs fixed its not the weed its him. My 3 and a half cents short of a dime.....bag P&L

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  • Lucasnr

    you can't really get addicted to weed. just saying.%%2

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    • LA_Woman

      There is a difference between marijuana abuse and marijuana dependence. Marijuana abuse occurs when someone continues to use the drug despite negative consequences, such as losing a job, poor academic performance or getting arrested. If you continue to smoke marijuana in spite of continued negative consequences, by definition you are a substance abuser.

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  • Confusedgirl

    wow girl thats hard to deal with smoking allll the time, & letting it become you life its hard to deal with when its the one you love. but we try to except it, and everything they do. like the violent thing its scary but he isnt hurting you. but if your honestly not happy leave him, make sure he knoes ur serious and maybe he will wake up and see what hes gotten into, or he will get worse and if that happens dont blame your self try to move on.

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  • thejazzismine

    YES! I know how you feel, my last boyfriend was the same. However I was smoking all the weed with him, but he was a skinny little stick who never ate and just spent all his money on the next and best bud he could find. I realize now how pathetic he was and broke up wit him. Hes still going no where and being a lazy pot head. So even though weed isn't physically or mentally addicting, just leave him. No one wants to kiss a man with cotton mouth anyways.

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  • bbyneshea

    absolutely, im in the same situation. but without the violence, my boyfriend just yells, and argues with me alot. i used to be a pot head, but i stopped so that i can get pregnant. but if my boyfriend, adam, doesnt get his weed atleast once a week he freaks. ive just learned to deal with it, hes been smoking since he was 12. i tell him he can only do it if im around, and he mostly only does it when we're with his friends. im just afraid of him messing up, or lying or keeping something from me you know?

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  • countingsheep

    I'd dump him if I were you.
    He hasn't hit you yet, but I wouldn't take chances. You don't have a future with him, it's obvious he's not going anywhere in life.

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  • mandii

    im in that same situation myself. it suuuckks! my bf doesn't go a day without somoking weed-he actually smokes multiple times a day. and when he's high he gets all paranoid asking me to log into my myspace so he can see who i write to and who is on my friends list. he says i cant have any guy friends. if he finds out im talking to just a friend he pushes me around, pulls my hair and screams in my face! i hate him at these times but we have a son so i really don't know what to do:/

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    • mandii

      i forgot to mention that when he doesn't have weed in his system he tends be very moody. for example: when he tries looking for something he gets really angry and throws everything in the room around, including our son's crib and general baby stuff. he scares me. also i've been with him for two years now and i'm the only one who tries to bring in money. even through out my entire pregnancy he just layed around the apartment i was paying for and didn't try hard to get a job-i worked though my entire pregnancy while paying all the bills and buy food for the two of us! its been two years and he still doesn't have a job! and when does actually get jobs they're minimum wage like flipping burgers! i hate my situation so much... even though i buy him all these things and put him before myself even he mistreats me and always getting mad at me for the smallest things. i hate him.

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  • iamthemoon

    dude you are the problem
    obviously he likes weed more than you leave him
    i mean i would choose weed too but seriously?
    dont be dumb you need to leave him so much more confidence and great things will come out of it

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  • suckowndick

    youre bf isnt addicted to weed, he just wants to escape from himself.
    thats a bold statement, but i believe it to be true. there are two situations that may occur, your bf may turn out to be the type that keeps smoking weed his whole life, and blames his failures on his external environment, and does nothing to change it, or he may turn to smoking weed right now as an escape to some high levels of stress occurring in his life, and the weed may actually help him calm down, figure out his plans, and redirect himself in the right path.

    me, ive made plenty of bad decisions, many of them have gotten me in trouble with the law. i smoke weed, but its not the worst thing ive done, i used to be addicted to dxm or (cough medicine) and also cocaine. i only smoke weed and drink alcohol now; i do realize that both are still bad for my health, but are not going to kill me, and may be of some sort of medicine at some points in time.

    you have to assess the situation yourself, and im sorry if this didnt answer youre question, but i hope it helped you make your own decision

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  • Krenn

    If you haven't already, dump him. His problems are too much for you to be bothering to handle.

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  • I think you should worry about changing yourself, not changing him. What is in this relationship for you, what do you get out of it, and why stay? To respect yourself I'd say leave.

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  • bidbox

    Buy him a massive bong and load the cone up with some twenny-twen-twen bombastic ghanjha, then dangle it under his nose like a carrot and lure him into a dark room (with a lock on the outside).
    When he's in, lock that sh*t, toss a lighter under the door and tell him to enjoy because it's the last weed he'll ever smoke if he wants to keep you. After a few hours you should get a fair indication of how he feels.

    I claim no responsibility for any broken windows, noses or damaged furniture after using this method.

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  • DrBallsack

    leave his ass
    theres no need to get violent over pot
    unless he got anger problems then let him smoke

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  • BorninTX324

    I think you're just freaking out. My brother was a big pothead, and he was able to just quit on his own, he didn't need any help. Your boyfriend isn't really "addicted" to weed, I think he just does it because maybe he's bored and feels like there's nothing better to do. Now if it was cocaine or heroin we were talking about here, then I would say yes, your boyfriend has a serious problem that needs help. But saying that he needs help for some marijuana? Please!

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    • xholliebx

      i'm not freaking out, im just sick of it!

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  • lo0oly

    dude u will not have time for your self !! only for the baby !!

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    • xholliebx

      what baby

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  • metalpayne

    He puts his "addiction" (it's more of a want, you don't go through withdrawal by not having reefer) before you, so he don't love you. Break up with him. Duh.

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  • xholliebx

    no hes not black

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    • xholliebx are u back? and do you still have this same loser boyfriend?

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      • xholliebx

        hey i never went anywhere lol.
        what happened to you lot?
        it looks like i been talking to myself looking back at the comments! lol
        and yes i am still with the same loser boyfriend :(

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        • haha, well spammy and I and several other posters including my racist evil twin, yellow pooltoy, were apparently banned, deleted and all traces of our existence was erased.

          but good to see you back dear. or not back, but still here.

          so how come you are still with that boyfriend? has he gotten more violent without his weed?

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          • xholliebx

            lol, im still here because im so sweet and innocent. =)

            yeah well to be onest now when my boyfriend decides to smoke weed i just refuse to go near him or talk to him, so he has actually cut down alot!

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            • you're using classical conditioning on him. smoking weed = no hollie. keep up the good work it might free him of his destructive habit.

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  • txtmachine

    <center>My brother was like this,
    and once it takes too much chiba to get him high, he will stop. if it continues, leave him. is it really worth it?

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  • Harry_head

    Its addiction he needs to grow his own then he' will smoke himself silly until he gets bored with the overkill. Make him smoke more and more until he hates the smell this requires a few ton of herb but its worth it, by the way your a fine looking lady.

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  • vanishedwithoutatrace

    Weed isn't addictive and you can never smoke too much of it. Your boyfriend is lame and you probably like the drama anyway.

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  • cellardoordayna

    DUDE, my best friend had the same problem.
    Her now ex-boyfriend was like 'addicted' to it. you cant REALLY be addicted to it, but you could want it like every second.
    All I'm saying is, you should break-up with him.

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  • SURGIWAX

    That boy has got his priorities in order. Food over weed? Fuck that, you fat bitch. Perhaps you should get your shit straight and stop wasting your money on things you don't need.

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  • Indawei

    What? You cant smoke too much pot.

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  • xholliebx

    im in most commented list =)

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  • xholliebx

    lol u 2 and your bickering!

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  • mybuttholesmellsofshit

    tell your boyfriend he should start smoking meth instead. its way cheaper and the high lasts much longer. your welcome! :)

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  • SuperSponge

    honestly, i say get over it. my boyfriend is the same. as long as he doesn't neglect you for it, its cool. just get off his ass about it. you have your alone time. he chooses to smoke weed during his. my boyfriend would choose weed over me any day, probably not until he's married with kids will he stop feeling that way. It's not hard to live with soo...get over it :)

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