My boyfriend's mother is driving me crazy

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Hi,

I am in a wierd situation. I have a boyfriend and he says that he love me a lot. I have talked with my parents also they are fine for marriage. But he has only his mother. She also knows about us and and infront of me she pretends to be nice but in my back she makes up things and present infront of her son that as if I am not behaving nicely with her. This guy loves his mom a lot and can do anything for her. He even told me that she will sleep with us after marriage when she will come to visit us after every 6 months. This was a height for everything. I don't know what to do. I am really a traditional sort of girl and what I know about myself is that I can either live alone or with him. Since I love him a lot. But sometime life seems burdensome with all these things. I am sensitive also so each small thing effects me with my studies. I am loosing my mental peace. Actually 10-11 years back I was in love with a guy who was whole world for me and he died. After him this is the only guy I got some feeling although lot of guys used to like me. So that's why I can't leave him. I love him a lot. But I am really confused how to take this stress. I have no passion left for life with all these stupid things.

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  • treeeeeeeeepkkk
    13 years ago

    She means sleeping... Not in a sexual way

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Woah... Either be more clear or that's awkward

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  • randomjelly
    13 years ago

    Sleeping with the mother? No. No.

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  • follow_me_down
    13 years ago

    Perhaps you need to sit down with his mother and understand her perspective of why she can't seem to let go of your boyfriend. With all this sudden talk of marriage, she may be terrified to lose her only support/comfort.

    You have't said that the marriage is coming soon, so maybe once his mother settles down and you talk with her, she will be more comfortable with you.

    Also, this relationship goes both ways. Your boyfriend needs to draw the line with his mother as well. Even if he does love her dearly, there comes a time in everyone's life that they must cut the cords...or at the very least stop her from belittling you. Parents should live along side their children, not with.

    As for everything affecting your studies, try to think that your boyfriend loves you so much that even though there are bumps, he sticks with you. Try to block the negative if you think this relationship is worth it.

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  • aduusw
    13 years ago

    I say you must be clear to him, tell him you r marrying him, not his mother.

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  • jessicia16
    13 years ago

    your not marrying his mother ... dont care about her ... tell your husband you hate her and be happy :) not many people will like their bf's or husbands mother and very few mothers like their son's wife or gf ... thats nature... i know my dad never liked one single guy i ever brough home lol

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