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My boyfriend and i use to have sex all the time, twice a day everyday and now its been a week since we did it and it was a week before that and i dont understand why he wont even touch me. All i get is hand holding and cuddling and pecks on the lips, no passionate kissing or sex..is this normal or is something going on in our relationship that im not seeing?
it is normal your in whats called a serious relationship its part of growing up lol sex isnt everything in a relationship so stop worrying about it calm down and enjoy some love and effection instead of childish lust
tbh just being with some one and pecking them on the lips and holding hands is better than trying to get down eachothers throats all the time its comfyer more relaxed
and i know you said passsion but that isnt passion, passion is wanting to go see the same girl every day to want to just be with her to laugh with her joke with her to love her what your talking about is lust
Now you know what MOST men go through.
Doesn't feel so good does it??
FYI, most men endure this for years and years.
This has happened to me before and most likely he's either losing interest in you or he's seeing someone else. Like you said, you two used to have sex like everyday, but it just suddenly stopped? Yep, he's seeing someone else or flirting with someone else.
You are normal, your boyfriend doesn't touch me anymore either :-p
Seriously though. Perhaps he is trying to keep you out of his pants because of something he is embarassed or ashamed about. Possibly he has something wrong downstairs like a rash or something. Or a hard to explain injury... maybe he's been experimenting with his sisters epilator or even just caught it in his zipper. He might not have been unfaithful, or if he has maybe that is how he got the embarassing problem in his pants!
You should talk to him about it. Don't nag him, men never tell the truth to women when they nag. If you make him feel accused or harassed he will just fob you off with excuses or whatever he imagines is the easiest way to make you shut up. You have to approach him cleverly, like as if you think it is your fault. Maybe it is something you are doing or have changed that is turning him off.
But, to be honest from my experience of the male species (and they act like a different species) he is probably cheating.
Your guy could be going through some things right now, maybe worried, or stressed about something which can have an impact on his sex drive. Try talking to him, see if you can find out what;s on his mind....
Marriage may not be in the future. He has already had the milk free and tired of it?
Yeah if you live together and are alone often then I'd say something is up with him. But most of all talk to him about it. All us women can tell when our men lie anyway. Communication.
Is it a living situation problem?
My g/f and I don't do it often because someone is always here.
its called personal space haha wow u need tp lay off some or hes gonna think youre extremely clingy and its goodbye to you
A lot of these comments could answer the reason "why". I'm going to delicately suggest another...make sure that you are practicing good "cleaning" habits. It could be that or something like a yeast infection turning him off. Just an alternate suggestion.
Couples in newly formed relationships can spend so much quality time together that it constitutes living by the flame of a match rather than a candle.
While it runs contrary to one's deepest emotions and desires, you must spend less time so that fondness can be restored. The old adage that absence makes the heart grow fonder is quite applicable here. It doesn't necessarily mean that you must separate, but merely spend less time together until the relationship exhibits signs of its original stability.
It's about a careful balancing act, never a full-on and constant immersion into each other.
Not knowing anything more than what you posted I would assume he is getting bored with you. He still cares for you and probably likes being around you but the spark is gone. Either rekindle the flame or prepare for "the talk". It's coming...
I'd call him up on it. But if he's giving you physical stuff like light kissing and cuddles, I wouldn't worry too much about him not liking you.
Just tell him you need some pleasure sometimes, and ask what is going on?
wow um I don't want to assume anything but I think your guy doesn't really desire you anymore. maybe its the little things you do turns him off.but you sure fix that by wearing really sexy stuff like lingerie or tight clothes and so on. there could be so many reasons he's not having sex with you though like; maybe he has an std that he's not sure about it and doesn't want you to have it,maybe he's getting low erection , and one of the worse scenarios is maybe he's cheating on you and the girl he cheated with gave him a hickie down there ...? you never know the guys dirt until you see it.well you see a kiss could lead to forplay then it leads to sex which he's afraid of doing .. remember he's not having sex with you..cause he's not kissing you anymore and being distant.weird ey when things fit in like a puzzle. but if I were you I would somewhat confront him after assuring the things I wrote above.
hope this opened up your eyes sweety.
good luck
let me know how it goes :)
actually thank you for all the comments :) we are much better now and everything is perfect :) the reason why all of that was happening was because someone told him i was sleeping with someone else which i am clearly not because i love him and i am not a cheater but we cleared everything up and everything is perfect the way it was :) i would delete this story since everything is okay now but i dont know how to delete it, thanks again for everything :)
He's just not that into you. Get out now before you've got any more time and emotion invested in him. And don't sleep with the next guy too early in the relationship. That could be the problem here.
i have the same problem...i've been with my boyfriend for about 8 months now and it's like he uses me to get off and then that's it...i know he loves me and is horrified when i say that to him...but he doesn't make an effort to change it...and when he does...it only lasts for 2 days tops...then it's back to me wearing barely anything just to get a comment or a touch and him using me when it's a good time for him...is leaving really the only solution?
just tell him how you feel. Sometimes guys aren't in the mood for sex... I know, it's a shocker!
dont listen to the last guy maybe he just wants to see if you still wanna be with him the guy probably really cares for you or love you and judt wants to make sure you fell the same