My boyfriend left me for a girl who is abusing him? normal?

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He cheated on me, left me for her. I thought she's crazy and turns out she's abusing him. She smacked him in the face and she pinched him and he has pinch marks on his body that look like half moon shapes on his arms that formed a scab. His one friend took a photo of them fighting recently that's how I know.

He's a very feminine man and she's very manly for a girl. Apparently he's not happy but he's afraid to be alone. He left me because my sister died and I was depressed and he felt lonely. He is very dependent on other people to make him happy had a traumatic childhood I tried to be the best I could be to him whilst going through what I was and I could take care of him normally now yet he's been hanging with her.

She is like a child his friend saw her grab his arm and say stop and then really grab it hard and he said that hurts stop and she said you're a "p*ssy" all because he wanted to go into a store and she wanted to go to a different store first before it closed. She's 25 he's 29.

Is it normal? And why is it girls can tell when another girl is crazy but the man can't until you can say I told you so?

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22% Normal
Based on 37 votes (8 yes)
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  • liltits
    5 years ago

    No, thats clearly domestic violence, doesn't matter the gender

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  • Track0011
    5 years ago

    your ex is mentally unestable if he needs to be in a relationship to feel good, not good for you or for himself, after leaving you he probably just went out to find someone else as quick as possible. just tell him to go seek a therapist and stay away from him unless he gets treated, he could have done the same to you and you dont even know it

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  • downwardSpiral
    5 years ago

    no its not he needs some help

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  • bluestar155
    5 years ago

    It's not normal. If anything, he is scared to leave the abusive relationship because of what she might do to him if he does. I would consider going to someone who could help with this situation (police maybe) if you are unable to pull him out of that. Also, if he is that reliant on other people to not feel lonely then maybe he should consider seeing a therapist to help with the traumatic experiences he had as a child.

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  • Sindra_Maywell
    5 years ago

    It's normal but not okay, it's a common thing now a days and I reccomend heavily he gets a intervention and far from that girl

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  • Renhanfuri
    5 years ago

    Yea people being like this is normal, Idk why people are like this but it seems like they are unaware or in denial about the situation they're in. That girl is a bitch who got everything she wanted in childhood and that guy has an unusually sensitive personality. He is either in denial, or unaware as I said.

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  • trexagireve
    5 years ago

    Yes it is normal he like female lead relationships

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  • ApplePine
    5 years ago

    Any violence against ones partner is wrong. Doesn't matter what gender either.

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  • mattypattpatt
    5 years ago

    Rather or not its normal I'm not sure. But I can tell just from reading this that there is a lot of emotional trauma going on here for everybody. What is important is that if it truly is an abusive relationship to be vocal about it, because abusive behavior is unacceptable and dangerous. As far as realizing she's crazy thats something your ex is going to have to figure out on his own. It might suck, but he'll learn his lesson. Good luck, it sounds like a really sticky situation

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  • anonymousfuckface
    5 years ago

    I don't know, maybe she threatened or blackmailed him in some way, do you know anything of the sort?

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