My boyfriend hits me

run, run, run, to the nearest womens shelter and don't look back. they will relocate you.

it's only going to get worse.

you love him because he's all you have, but think about how much he loves you while he's hitting you and telling you that you are ugly.

this story is typical of an abuser. next, he'll be taking the computer away.

as a guy i am disappointed and apauled at his behavior. that is absolutely no way to treat a woman. i would like to apologize on his behave due to the fact that i doubt he would say it.
MTNW is totally right in saying that the only reason you love him is because he is your everything. he is all you have and in your eyes from the way the relationship started, he is all you need.
You truely need to remove yourself from that situation. im not trying to preach but if you go to a church or a women's shelter i garentee they will help you.
you are a strong woman just by the fact alone that he beats you down and u still stand back up. imagine how great you can do with out him holding you back.
do not fear him...for that is what he wants and is the only thing that he has over you.
if you take that from him...he has nothing..and is nothing...

if you haven't anywhere else to go, leave to the nearest women's shelter. you obviously have access to to a computer, check on google for the women's shelters in your area.

get out now. this will only escalate. you could end up dead if you don't leave now. these kind of relationships don't get better, they only get worse.

again, get out.. NOW.

he hasnt took the computer away because its his computer i go on it when hes at work.
i know i should leave him but im too afraid...
thanks for all your advice. :)

leave him...thats all i have to say
if he loves you he wouldnt hurt you
leave him please

I guess the good thing is you have no kids. I make that reach because you would have mentioned something. I agree with many of the other comments. In a relationship whether its sales,friendship, love[use that word loosely], both parties need to feel good . This person[can not call him a man] is a monster. Get out of this situation ASAP. Would not want to see you on the news for the wrong reasons.

ok #1 if i saw him do this to u n person i would beat the living shiit out of him till he be eatting out of a straw
that is no way to treat someone you love
and for you i guess save some money up and move out on ur own or find a friend's house cause where ur living at could get worse
im sorry you have to go threw it
but bare it till u can get on ur own
and #2 u could always beat his ass with a baseball bat and let him know ur not scared
nd #3 he's useing ur love for him too hurt you and make you feel bad

There are women's distress lines and they know what you are going through - the isolation, the abuse. Take control of small things. Do not get impregnated with this guy - it will then be child abuse as will as spousal abuse. you need a plan to get out, talk with a distress center. Many women have been where you are and have made it out.

Personally, I wish you would walk out the door right now and straight to the police station. No one should be treated as you are. It is horrible what he is doing to you, simply horrible. Do get out.

Hi there, I wish that these types of things didn't happen in our communities, but sadly it is a very common situation. You are not alone! Find a way to get some information on local women's shelters and make your way there, if you have any children then you should probably try to take them too. Your partner has a problem, but it's not your job to fix him while he takes his anger out on you.

Remember you are not alone and the most important thing is to take care of yourself. I hope you find the courage to get help you need, everyone here knows that it's not easy to go, but please, for your own sake, take a deep breath and make that choice, no one deserves abuse.

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this is normal. Basically the guy is trying to control you.

Can't you find a job or friend to help you get out of the guy's life? Because if you can't do anything about it then you must like him hitting you:/

Call Samaritans that you are being hit.

It's not as if he can kill you. If he does go that far then he must have brain problems.

girl..
you need to leave him. I went through the same with with my ex fiance. It will only get worse. My ex didn't put a hand on me until we moved in together and I lived through a year of terror. Abusers are fake and manipulators. The man you fell in love with is a lie he is a monster in disguise. The first time he grabbed me and threw me he bruised my wrists and then it led to pushing hitting. I can't tell you how many bruises this man has left me. They manipulate you to the point where you feel you have no one and girl you are not alone. You have friends and if he made you distance yourself from them find them and explain your situation. they will help you. I didn't tell anyone what was happening to me. I lived with the man it is hard to escape but you can do it.. this is your safety. This man can kill you and I know you're thinking oh he loves me girl he doesn't love you. I am sorry to say that was the hardest thing I have to over come. A man who loves you will never harm you. It took a year to leave after the physical abuse started. He tried to suffocate me. He grabbed me and slammed me into the wall holding me there... shoved the pillow on my face and I felt his fingers squeezing my face tighter and tighter.... I couldn't breath... After a few minutes he let go. I ran out of the house and at that moment I realized that this man can kill me..... a man who puts his hands on you once will do it again and again and it will get worse each time. Get out while you can alive.

Is this for real? Oh my God leave him! You're in Danger in every possible way!

My Spidy sense tells me he probably drinks a lot too, huh? Please, for the love of God, get away from that piece of shit who's trying to manipulate you. You don't deserve this!

leave NOW

LEAVE. HIM. NOW.

(part 2 of my comment) Trust me, I know how you feel. Things do get better and you will be truly happy with time. My son is now almost 6 and I am married to a wonderful man who loves us both. He has never hurts us and he is good to us. I know this is what I really deserve. You do too honey. You deserve to be loved and treated right. Abusing you is not love. Please wake up and see him for what he really is. Please for the sake of your life get out now before he kills you. I honestly hope their are no children involved, if so then that is plently reason for you to find the strength to get out now. Best of luck to you.

I only made an account to comment to you! My heart goes out to you. Listen to me because I have been where you are now. I was with a man for a year and he would do the same things your boyfriend is doing to you now. I would be black and blue from the beatings. I stayed with him because I loved him. He would make me feel like him abusing me was my own fault and he would make me feel worthless. I got pregnant and that made him abuse me more. I was stupid and believed him when he said I was ugly and no one else in this world would want me. He would choke me and punch me in the stomach and face. He even gave me a std because he was sleeping with other women. He would tell me that if I wouldn't piss him off so bad I would get hit. I thought I loved him. He would always buy me stuff to make up for the beatings. Well, when our son was born he ended up breaking my sons leg when he was only 4 months old. He never wanted the baby and I do believe he wanted to kill the baby. That was the breaking point for me. I knew I had to get away from him for good. I wasn't very strong at the time and I was scared. I thought nobody else would love me or my baby. I felt alone and I just wanted to die. I finally went and got counciling and got help.
This was almost 6 years ago. Looking back now I realize that I am worth something and none of what he did to my baby and I was my fault. He was just hurting us to make himself feel better. I also realize now if I would of stayed I probably would be dead right now. I am telling you all of this because even though it may seem like you have no one there for you, you do. Get help and get out now before it's too late. Your life depends on it. You are somebody and you are worth it. Please get away from him asap. I have been where you are and believe me he will not change, the beatings will not stop if you stay. He does not love you. Love is not beating someone like that. You said it yourself, "He ruined my life!" How can you love him if he ruined your life? Look at what he is doing to you, do you think he loves you? He doesn't, trust me. You need to get out and get help. You need to love yourself. You are an important person in this world. Your self worth is the most important part of you. I will pray for you. Once you leave him it will get better with time. You will learn to love yourself again and in time meet the man who is right for you. He will REALLY love you and treat you like the queen you are. He will take care of you and never hurt you like this piece of shit is now.

I used to have the same probs with my bf try causly showing the marks like where a t shirt tht shows ur arms or a coloer tht hilights the bruses if he sees wht he's done to you he may stop

I'm usual rough with ppl on here, but I won't be with you. You need to get away from him as fast as possible, he is poison. Someone needs to mess this douchebag up.

Get out sweetie your not being loved ur being abused get out of there asap!!!!

WOW. Leave now. You had a job. Get another. Go to battered womens shelter. This man will kill you. I work domestiv violence cases, and I know this.

i agree with everybody leave the this mother fucker i know you are scared but i believe in you im a nice guy who wants to help you here is an alternate choice call the police.

Honey you need to RUN. You need to get out of there before he REALLY gets messed up!! Now I hope you aren't someone that's trying to get attention, but if you aren't, RUN!

Listen to me very attentively.He is not a real man.Dont think that your life is spoiles this is just a difficulty which will be overcomed.I know its hard that you have no one but you have profession,yes?Go away.Leave him.He doesnt deserve your love.He says you are ugly or whatever to depress you.Go away you live once.You will find the right guy who will appreciate you

"hes ruined my life and dont let me go anywhere." says it all....get out asap x

girly, the best thing to do is to get out now. Trust me! i have a cousin who lives with her crack addict trashy husband. she has 4 kids with him and all he does is make them miserable. he sold my cousins wii. it was the only thing fun they had and he sold it for drugs. when my cousin tries to stand up to him he beats on her mercilessy. just a few weeks ago he ODed and jenny(his third daughter) found him unconcious and foaming at the mouth. She had to scoop out the foam from his mouth while screaming for her mom to get in there. She saved his life and he still doesnt claim her as his daughter. he says 'the way her cheating whore of a mother gets around she aint mine'. DO you wanna end up like that? just hurry up and get out of there. stay with a friend, go to a shelter. just get out.

Leave now. Go somewhere where he won't look for awhile. Move, then live UR life. Go be a dance teacher, go make new friends. But leave before he hurts u even worse. It's not worth staying. I hate to say this but u may love him, i understand that, but his feelings are on the other side of the "I'm an abusive moron who needs to be shot" train. Leave and find help.

get out now, the reason why he has suddenly started checking on you is cos its him who no longer trusts himself-he's probably the one cheating on you! GET OUT AND FIND A REAL MAN!

Ok Hun. I understand that you think you're in love and all but you're not. Think about it.. Do you actually love someone whose putting your life in danger? Cmon now, you can do better than this!! You need to LEAVE HIM. There are PLENTY more guys out there that will treat you better. This is an unhealthy, abusive relationship and you need to run and don't look back. It'll be hard, but it's for the best. Goodluck Hun!

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That is vile behavior! No man should treat a women like that! What is wrong with him?
Look, for your own protection, go to the police, tell them everything, they should help.
You have done nothing wrong. HE is the one doing wrong.
Sure, you love him, but that is because he has made you think that you have no-where else to turn. He loves you too, but in a sick, warped maner.
Seek help. For your own safety and sanity, seek some help.

If this is real, leave!

If anybody ever did this to me they would end up dead. no joke. its totally not normal and he does not love you. if you think he loves you you dont know what love is.

Perhaps you could take the hint when other people tell you you look OK.
So if you leave him you can still find someone else.

Really! Get out of there now! See how important this is?!?! All these strangers want you to get out that's how serious it is. I'm not really too religious but I'll pray for ya

so the next time he starts hitting you, stab him and tell the cops it was self defense.

I'm a guy and this story is real sad.
As much as you love your boyfriend, if everyone had a rating 1 to 10 he's a 0.
Picking on a young girl like you isn't rite.
The fuckin twit shouldn't try to make more of a man of himself by beating up girls, that doesn't make you a man.
If I knew him and knew what the fuck he was doing to you. Wether you liek it or not, I would beat the living life out of his ass and kick his corpse to a jail cell.
When he's gone to work run to the police station and report him in and get that crazy piece of shit locked up.

If you cant do that, (if you still have your phone) call the police when he's at work so the retarded pussnuts bastard can come home to the cops.
You don't deserve this, and he's not the only person that loves you.
You said guys say you're pretty. All of those guys would treat you better. You're obviosuly a beautiful girl, and you don't need an escaped mental hospital patient treating you like how he treats his shrunken penis.
So my advice. Run away to the police they'll sort it out and you wont see that mothafucker again. (sorry bout language lol).
So come on turn that frown upside down and get out of there pretty girl

Look, you have to tell yourself that HE isn't worth YOUR time. The truth is, hes weak. He doesn't know how to handle his emotions and whenever he's angry you end up with bruises. Don't be afraid to find peace for yourself, it may seem scary just to even think about leaving but the truth is your just leaving the painful side of your life. Like what everyone else said, go to a womens shelter and begin your life as a beautiful person that has the courage to say enough. Im sure its hard to be in the situation your in but I know you have the strength to make it past this, I have faith in you. From here you only have one direction to go, forward.

Girlie, if he loved you, he wouldn't hit you. 'Nuff said.

leave him as soon as you can... go find help. please, do this for yourself.

Run for your life dear. No one that loves you phisically hurts you. EVER !!!!!

run when hes gone run get ur stuff and dip out go to the police just get out NOW if u wait u might die

You need to leave or you will feel this way for the rest of your life. If he hits you again you take a pan and you hit him as hard as you can right in the face you hit him so hard he doesnt get up for a while. It is natural for you to protect he his your abuser and you want him to change but that is the real him and it will only get worse when he is at work pack your things have the police esscort you and help you take your things and leave find a friend to stay with or a shelter or any type of relatives. But you listen to me when i say if he touches you again go into the kitchen get a pan and when you have a clear shot you swing hard and fast call the police tell them it was self defense and he will be arrested show them you bruises and tell them he just tried suffocating you and you ran to call for help he followed and you defeaned yourself. Trust me any dad or mom would do it for you if they were their If you dont get out you will end up dead. Thats how it will always end please leave.

Your boyfriend deserves to burn in hell.

You need to get out now and get away. A man who has so little control, or feels he is entitled to strike a woman is not a real man but IS a very real danger to you. Most female murder victims are attacked by a male that they are close to or involved with. Even if he just got 'more out of control than normal' one day or night he could cause you life threatening harm, brain damage or death. Get away from him now, go to the shelter and the police. They will get you out of that situation which is what needs to happen asap. I hope the best for you, which will be to leave and do so now.

I know what youre going through my boyfriend hit me and i called the police i pressed charges because at the moment i was scared nervous and i just wasnt thinking I was only hurt an sad that he bruised me the problem is now i want to drop those charges i love him i love him i wish it never went that far now i regret pressing charges and im hoping that they drop him if you love him stay by him or you will have to start all over. I love the my guy to but it could be over and its been killing me because all i want is us to be together again and if i have to get hit the rest of my life i dont care i just want to be with him

and your still THERE??? wtf

that is not normal...a very abusive and unhealthy relationship

thats so wrong i dont know what to tell u. maybe hes on something.