My boyfriend has a porn problem

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Hi all,

Here is a situation that has been bugging me for months now.

My BF is a great guy, kind, warm, funny - and he treats me like a princess (As I deserve to be). The thing is...

He spends 3-5 Hours a week, whilst on line, downloading porn - and, after about six months or so, has about 100 GIG ( ! ) on the computer. Nothing illegal, but everything from simulated rape to donkey shows.

THAT is NOT the problem.

I don't really mind porn, in fact I enjoy watching people fuck, but the thing about my BF is, though he will spend lots of time DL it, after he gets it he rarely if ever Watches it. He just DL MORE. On top of that, every so often he just up and deletes everything and starts over.

I've told him that this isn't healthy and it is weird, but his reply is that it is just a hobby, like any other.

Is this a guy thing, or what?

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  • [Old Memory]
    15 years ago | pl

    There is absolutely nothing wrong with that stop nagging him.

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  • [Old Memory]
    15 years ago

    hey if hes downloading donkey shows he seems like an alright guy

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    • [Old Memory]
      15 years ago

      And I wouldn't mind if he Looked at it after, but he doesn't.

      Seems sicko.

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  • buriedalive
    15 years ago

    maybe he's just bored and does it to fill up time. I download a shitload of music that i don't listen to, and while i appreciate that it's not quite the same as porn, if it's just the downloading your worried about you shouldn't stress over it (unless hes getting viruses from it, but i suppose that's another issue.)

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  • [Old Memory]
    15 years ago

    Like I said, I don't mind the porn - but 100GIG that he never looks at and then deletes?

    Seems strange and clinical to me

    Tobra

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    • timemaster86
      15 years ago

      yeah it does sound like a mental thing, i download it - THEN WATCH IT! its the best part, but to be honest its nothing to worry about, as long as it keeps him happy and if hes as good as you say then surely you can overlook it?

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  • volozi
    12 years ago

    3-5 hours a week? That's nothing. I'd say anything under 2 hours a day is easily normal

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  • DeadPixel
    12 years ago

    Cyber hoarding. Just a habit some people get. 100GB isn't even that much if you're really into it, especially factoring in bigger files like videos. Lots of people do it with all kinds of stuff, not just porn; even me to some degree (I think porn is kinda boring though personally). If you can't pry him away from the PC long enough to eat or pay attention to something else, that's a whole different story though. Otherwise, each to their own; it's not hurting anything.

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  • spongerobert
    12 years ago

    In case of emergency? When the inevitable nuke gets dropped and wipes out internet, you still got a few cans of tinned food and 100gb of porn. You'll survive for years on that LOL

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  • lovepuddle
    12 years ago

    Completely normal

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    y download porn!!! It just contains viruses

    easiest thing to do is get hypercam and record it on the screen with volume :D

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    That's a little weird that he wastes space on the computer DL it and never watching it..are you sure he wasn't watching it while you were sleeping or something?

    It's prolly good you two are done anyways, men who are "addicted" to porn when with a gf are worthless controlling assholes

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  • ladypinky
    13 years ago

    It's not a guy thing, I do it too and I'm a female.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    :)

    I have always maintained that I don't have a problem with my bfs (when I have one :( ) looking at porn.

    I don't have a problem with Any Type of porn either (so long as it is not involving children. I do draw the line at that for moral rather than legal reasons)

    But to spend hours DL it and then not watching it more than once...

    I know guys like to look, maybe pleasure themselves (I kinda enjoy seeing that actually, but guys get uncharacteristically shy. Go figure) but why go to all the trouble of DL if you don't bother with it after?

    Ah well, he and I are done anyway.

    Thanks for the comment.

    Tobra Marie - returning IIN Princess

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  • Starbuck
    14 years ago

    It's a guy thing. Not all guys are into porn this much, though.

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  • scarfface
    14 years ago

    hmmm , hello again tobra , i've seen quite a few good posts from u on this site :)

    now , i must say i can relate to your boyfriend in a certain way because i once downloaded 50gb of porn at once ( took a lot of time yeah ) and after watching it for some time deleted most of it . it's because most of the porn these days is crap and most of actresses aren't as atractive as i'd wan't them to be . also , porn is not like a regular movie , it takes you 5 min to skip through it and see if it's actualy worth watching ...only the best of the best stay on my hard drive the rest is deleted very fast .... i hope i helped

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  • dontknow
    15 years ago

    [Perhaps your bf sense]???
    Must have been a reminant of composition!
    Disregard it, as it was not intentional.

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  • dontknow
    15 years ago

    Okay O, I've seen some of your stuff since you caught my attention, and I will have ot say that you demonstrate anger in some of your posts.
    Anger generally arises out of fear.

    You also seem to almost overcompensate with sexuality which may arise from an insecurity about whether or not YOU still feel sexy not as mobile as you once may have been and hence graceful as a gazelle.

    So what if, just what if, your bf downloads all of this porn and then doesn't look at any of it INTENTIONALLY just to let you know that he finds you and ONLY YOU sexy and has all of these other woman he could look at but doesn't because he wants you to know that there is only you in his life that you alone are all he needs and when he thinks of sexy he thinks of you alone?

    You say that he's a nice guy; maybe he's that nice.

    Pleae forgive me, but I'm sure that I am only saying in softer terms what some others may have called "arrogant" or "arrogent":)

    I assure you I come from a place of love on this. You might be luckier than you know.

    Perhaps your bf sense

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    • [Old Memory]
      15 years ago

      That could be.

      I have a (very) strong self image, but it could be I am overcompensating for a certain lack in some areas.

      Hmm...I never considered that. Now I must. I will do some thinking on it.

      I Thank You! :) :) :)

      Tobra Marie

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      • [Old Memory]
        14 years ago

        Your very pretty and it isn't you. Most guys (Including myself until I realised it and changed.) really want to see every woman naked. The porn he has he probably views when he first gets it and then thats it.

        I'm serious, it could be some skanky, three dollar, ugly whore and we want to see her boob even IF they hit the ground and she is 80 years old. Honestly.

        I changed this inside myself but really. We don't want to sleep with the person or get off looking at the person. It is more to see the girl naked and I guess it is to feel that we did something we shouldn't have done.

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        However, I don't cheat (I solved this idea by talking about it here on this site.) nor do I go to strip clubs. But if someone stripped down to nothing, I would be hard pressed to not look until I realise what I am doing and FORCE myself to look away.

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