My boyfriend gets so paranoid i can't function?
We've been together for six months, and he thinks I'll cheat on him. He will literally look through my phone until the battery dies, and he texts numbers on my phone pretending to be me.
For example, when we're chilling with other people and I'm doing my homework, he'll text me saying "I pay more attention than you think." When I ask him wtf he's talking about, he normally claims I was looking at someone. I can't even look to see if I'm Putting a cigarette out in the ashtray or the table! And if I miss and ash the cherry on the table because of this, he accuses me of getting distracted by someone or checking someone out! I don't know what he wants from me. I can't even look at someone to hand me a lighter. Hes not satisfied unless I'm staring at HIM (my bf) the whole night! I can't do anything, not even simple tasks. When we leave, he'll ask "we're you looking at that guy?" I say "no," and he says "Why would you bullshit me like that? I can't trust you." When I ask him what he means, he'll be like "you looked at him when you handed him the lighter!" And I'll be like "yes, I glanced at him, but I wasn't checking him out." Then he's like "I said looking, not checking out. Technically you looked." He even makes me tell him the sequence of events of the whole night, and if I forget one tiny detail he says I intentionally left it out! He makes me tally up the number of times I looked at someone. If I forget one, he thinks I'm lying. He'll say, "tell me each time you looked at that guy tonight" and if I forget that I asked him to hand me my pencil or something, he says that "my stories don't add up" and then it invalidates my whole account of the night.
I fucked one guy when we were a "thing." The guy I had sex with got me completely blasted on everclear (he told me it was vodka) and took advantage of me. Me and my bf weren't even exclusive at the time, but because I told my bf I wouldn't fuck the guybefore the guy drove me home, he doesn't trust me. The last thing I remember my bf saying before I left with the guy was "if you Fuck him, I just want you to tell me." I told him the next day and he freaked out.
I tell him everything; he has unlimited access to my phone; he knows all my passwords, everything. I have nothing to hide, and I didn't mind since it made him feel more secure.
He gets irritated when I wear short skirts or shorts; he'll tell me "your pussy's hanging out" or he'll ask me why I'm 'spreading my legs' because he thinks I'm showing someone my crotch or something. He makes up these scenarios where I like people and we somehow communicate with our eyes?? Like "you're looking at someone, I know he's showing off his dick for you." Or "he put emphasis on the word fuck, so he's flirting with you."
I haven't ducked anyone since we decided to officially be a couple; is this normal? What can I do to make him more secure? All I want to do is prove to him I'm not interested in other people and don't Want to fuck anyone else.