My boyfriend doesn't really buy me gifts

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I been with my boyfriend for 3 years. We live together, and I lost my job a few months ago. My boyfriend is successful, and drives nice cars. Anyways, I bought him a lot of expensive things when ever he asked for them. Like, I got him things for his cars like stereos, and rims. He makes more than me, and he usually pay all the bills, while I stock things for the house, or buy material things for the house. I never really asked him for anything but we used to argue about it before about him not really buying me anything. I mean he doesn't buy me things that I would ask for, like a book, hair-dye, flowers, cards, etc.. I never asked him for anything expensive. Well, I needed underwear & bra but he told me no. He doesn't have money. But he spend a fortune on his cars, and his family & friends. He likes to go cheap on me on birthday or anniversary & valentines day. He only buys me flowers, and a chocolate then that's it. I appreciate it, but I'm beginning to feel like he is cheap & doesn't want to spend money on me. There are times when I needed help financially but he refused to help me and my family are beginning to notice it. I don't want them to, and I been trying to hide it. Because my cell phone got turned off for 2 months & I needed to pay for my insurance. I asked him for help but he doesn't want to give it. Instead he bought his bestfriend a case of beer, and a jersey shirt on his birthday party. Right now my car is messed up since I lost my job, and he's been spending money on his wardrobe, getting haircuts, and going out to eat by himself when I been at home. He doesn't really take me out to eat or to the movies unless someone invites him somewhere and he'll just take me too. I feel sad because it seems like he doesn't think of me or care about me as much as I do for him. It's not since I lost my job that he's been like this... but I just thought he would support me while I'm getting my degree & can't really provide for myself. We are together for 3 years. What do you guys think? I feel neglected sometimes. Please tell me how I should see things. I don't want to think or feel this way.

I'm being selfish 10
He doesn't love me 33
He's just being a guy. No harm 15
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  • Ellenna
    7 years ago

    You feel neglected because you are in fact neglected. Why are you putting up with this?

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  • Lifeistooshorttotakeseriously
    7 years ago

    There are two sides to every story but even then why are you putting up with that crap? If he cared he would show it. Look after yourself I wish you luck getting another job and a boyfriend who treats well.

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  • riffraffy
    7 years ago

    The memory of a woman when it comes to money, who's given what gifts and who owes who how much is both amazing and horrifying.

    I think it is best you two break up. This level of pettiness can only bring misery wherever you go.

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  • Cockticus_Erecticus
    7 years ago

    He probably doesn't take the relationship as seriously as you seem to be. Unfortunately what you are experiencing is probably something along the lines of his version of equality. If you did more "traditional" things along the lines of "wife" duties, i.e. cooking and cleaning, he would probably assume more of the traditional things like buying you nice things and supporting you. This is just a guess though as we have no idea on his side of things or how he views it.

    These are very strange times.

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  • docile1
    7 years ago

    Some questions to ask yourself: Why do you expect a man you're not married to, to take care of you? Why do you care about receiving gifts? Why is it his job to bail you out, when he already pays your rent and bills? Hmmm.

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  • Pure_Rage
    7 years ago

    Use him because he's already using you. Give him no sex, and try to live with free rent as long as possible.

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    • LillyD
      7 years ago

      Ha ha

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  • Tealights
    7 years ago

    Sounds like you're just there for sex, companionship, and housekeeping.

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    • 8=====D~~~~
      7 years ago

      That's all any woman is there for....

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      • Tealights
        7 years ago

        Maybe companionship was the wrong word for this. I meant company, someone for him to look at so he doesn't feel alone.

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  • MichaelMyersindarkness
    7 years ago

    Talk about first world problems.

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  • RoseIsabella
    7 years ago

    I personally think he's just using you for sex and domestic duties. I think he's a selfish, disgusting pig. Keep your grades up, and do whatever you can to advance your career. When when you graduate and get a good job take all the stuff you bought for the house with you. Leave sooner if you can of course. I officially deem your boyfriend a screaming asshole of the gaping prolapse type.

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    • The_Creep_is_here
      7 years ago

      She may not be that ambitious. Maybe, she needs a sugar daddy. She sure ain't gettin any sugar from that guy's bone.

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  • JessyHazel
    7 years ago

    I don't know if you loves you, I think he must if you been together for that long... but that just sounds so fucking cheap of him... If he has the option to help you pay something as important as an insurance, I have no idea why he would refused to do that. Maybe he could think, that you won't pay him back and that's why he won't do it but I feel like you should ask him why he decides so..

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