My boyfriend doesn't like me dressing like a tomboy
Notice: he has absolutely no problem with the way I am; playing lots of PC games (we are both huge gamers), being a bit childish (I love Pokemon and Lego) and having very few female friends. The problem comes to when I "dress the part". I used to dress quite feminine, however I never felt very secure doing it. Then, about six months ago I cut my hair short, probably the most satisfying thing I've ever done. Then I shopped for a new wardrobe (and borrowed some from my brothers). Now I feel at peace, just right, and I wonder why I didn't do this earlier.
The only problem is that my boyfriend feels very uncomfortable with my new style. We met about two years ago and at that time I had long hair and dressed in skirts and dresses quite often. He never really liked me cutting my hair and asks when I will grow it back (my answer: not for a long while, and then a short page at its best).
The thing is, I don't really dress down, like wearing over sized t-shirts and jogging pants every day. I really like the preppy style with oxford shirts, chinos, wool cardigans/pullovers, club blazers and top siders. Which is a style my boyfriend also dresses after. But he still wants me to be his female equivalent, that is, in dresses and heels. He sometimes jokes about if people see us together they will think he is gay (note: that HE is gay, not that we are a gay couple). Although joking, he's said it a number of times there's a grain of truth emerging.
If I would ever care about someone else's opinion, it is his and it is weighing down on me. But the only thing he wants me to do, is the one thing I can't do.