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My boyfriend used to last 45minutes. Sometimes he would even lose the erection. I assumed it was ED. a year into the relationship and he is no longer losing the erection and is lasting around 15minutes before he climaxes.
Is it normal that he lasts less now? Why may this be the case?
15 mins is a lot. I cant handle 1 min in a pussy. Anyways 45 mins is too much and u would probably dry out yr pussy.
I'm not some kind of expert or authority on this subject but it seems like he was lasting a really long time before and he's still lasting a pretty long time now.
He doesn't need to impress you anymore because its passed the 1 year period, move on
The doctor is correct you just can't have sex like as if you are masterubating. A woman needs gentle love and affection
"for a male is 8 minutes and the it takes a women 15 minutes on average to reach climax"
That sounds like a bunch of bullshit to me.
To thegupsysailor,
Thanks for your in depth a well though out reply. It is obvious, you are a scholar. Since you must lack the skill to deduct your own research, I am willing to assist you. I was not quoting a medical journal, I was just passing on what the doctor had said during one of my many visits with clients to their doctor appointments. Here is the real info from Brown University....
"In assessing whether you have premature ejaculation, it can be important to ask whether your own or your partner’s stamina expectation is realistic. Keep in mind that the average time from insertion to ejaculation is less than three minutes."
So when I quoted the doctor by saying 8 minutes, the doctor was giving men an extra 5 mins. on average.
So put that in your pipe and smoke it.
Victorygin has some interesting thoughts, but she appears to be guessing, at best.
Ok here's the real deal....I am a Case Manager for men and I have gone to numerous doctors appointments regarding this issue. The doctor told us that the average sexual encounter for a male is 8 minutes and the it takes a women 15 minutes on average to reach climax so this was referred by a name but I can't remember it. Anyway, there are things he can do to prolong his ability to last sexually. 1st. Anti-depressants, they work to reduce dopamine so he does not cum fast. 2nd. Get an MRI done....it might not be an issue with his reproduction area, but it could be an issue with picked nerves in his back. That's right a back injury can affect him and his performance. 3rd. Have him masterbate with you and have him "practice" maintaining an erection and not climaxing.
Finally, I would suggest exploring things that you two can do in order to reduce your time to climax so it fix within his time frame. Meaning stimulate you with oral sex, sex toys, or masterbation. Then when your closer to climax then you should let him finish you off.
Furthermore, I would suggest that if he disappoints you during sex, not to make a big deal out of it. Instead, masterbate togather or use sex toys. I would imagine that if he started feeling as if he was going to "let you down" when you had sex then he might stop having sex. Which would not help the situation! I work in mental health and you would be surprised about how much a lox self esteem can influence a person.
Bottom line....make a doctor's appointment and good luck.
75% percent of men have a problem with erectile dysfunction. The rest just don't see it as a problem...
But seriously... losing an erection after 45 minutes is not ED, that's just normal. He's not superman.
So why is he only lasting 15 mins (like most other guys)? Maybe he's just not as fit as he used to be. Maybe you're both in a rut sexually and he's not trying as hard?
Maybe there's been a change in frequency?
It could be a lot of things.