My boyfriend cums so easily to porn?

I'm a semi-insecure teenage girl who wants to know if it is normal for her 18 year old boyfriend to masturbate to porn. My boyfriend goes to the gym (we workout together) and eats a lot of food. He isn't a shy person, but he hates seeing me upset so when I ask him if he thinks certain pornstars are sexy, he says... "It's not that they are sexy, I like watching porn and masturbating to it because I pretend that you're the girl doing that stuff to me."

We haven't had sex because I'm worried that things will go wrong (i.e, he won't stay hard, he won't cum, i won't know what to do)
He used to be the kind of person who would talk to all these girls but none of them would actually do anything sexual with him (even though they always talked dirty on the internet together) Before being with each other, neither of us had any sexual experience with anyone (apart from kissing).

When we first started going out, he would get hard if I sat on him (straddle position) but now he will hardly get hard when I try to make him. (maybe because i was his first girl in reality?)

When i give him blow jobs, he takes forever to actually ejaculate and 95% of the time, he does it himself until he is about to ejaculate because i can never get him to reach that point. I have tried talking dirty and videoing me give him a blow job. i have even sent him videos of me shaking my bum and bending over.
one day we were doing 69 and he just went soft. i tried doing everything i could but as soon as he got porn up on his phone, he cummed.

Whenever i went down on him he used to love it but now i get the occasional "stop", "not now", "let's just cuddle"

I get really jealous. It's pathetic! We both communicate to each other a lot and tell one another everything but when i try to talk to him about who he thinks is attractive, i get very upset. (We talk about this because i feel that hopefully it will make me used to the fact that everyone is attracted to other people)

I have been insecure all my life and when he watches porn it makes me feel like i'm not worth it even more. I know i'm not an ugly thing but weight has been my problem. I'm 166cm and i weigh 63kg. We both agree that i'm not skinny and he says he likes girls with a bit of meat on them and that i have the perfect body, but then he likes girls with flat stomachs? it's so so hard to believe him when he says i'm beautiful.

I feel like he doesn't think i'm as attractive as he says I am. I'm not fat, but i haven't got a completely flat stomach yet, and every person he has told me that he thinks is attractive, has a flat stomach. he tells me i'm the most beautiful girl he's every laid his eyes on, but if that's true, then why does he watch porn? why can i never (by myself) finish him off? i've watched him wank and he did it in 2.5 minutes. Maybe i'm not good at it? We spoke about his fantasies and i have tried my hardest to fulfil them.....

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  • dom180

    Perhaps he needs to masturbate less and in a way that mimics the feeling of real sex to get used to orgasm from sex. I wrote about this on a story recently, which I'll link for you.

    http://isitnormal.com/story/is-it-normal-that-i-can-orgasm-during-masturbation-but-not-during-sex-171538/

    His relationship with porn does sound like it's a not quite normal. I don't think most guys would be able to go from real sex to suddenly un-erect to watching porn to erection to orgasm that quickly. I do believe that porn can desensitise some people if it's consumed over a long period of time.

    I think you need to let go of the porn thing a bit too, though. Just because he watches porn doesn't mean he doesn't find you sexy enough for him, it just means that he wants variety (you could say that guys are wired to want variety, but that watching porn is a lot better way of dealing with that urge than him having sex with lots of other women. The fact that he doesn't do that shows that deep down he wants you more than them.).

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  • lc1988

    Wouldn't hurt for you to watch porn to learn some technique or since you watch him masturbate, see what he does.
    I forgot to mention...suck hard.

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    • shuggy-chan

      lol LC, such a role model, and remember girl, suck hard. hahaha

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      • lc1988

        Hahaha <3

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  • mlbryan44

    I will suck you off and fuck you silly.

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  • (s)aint

    What kinds of porn does he watch? Maybe he wants to have differnt kinds of sex?

    I'm all supportive of watching porn UNLESS it effects your actual sexlife. I'd have him STOP masturbating for a week or so and then he have to tell you what he wants.

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    • No masturbation for a week equals more cum for you.

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      • (s)aint

        Cum<3

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  • Some guys get soft when they get nervous.

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  • handsignals

    He's a young guy, it's normal.

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  • TheManagement
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    Send him this link: http://yourbrainonporn.com/

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