My boyfriend broke my heart. is it normal to still love him?

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So I met this really nice guy. He was my best friend for a while, sadly he had a girlfriend. He always told me he loved me (even though he was dating the other girl). I came second, and if he ever broke up with her he would hookup with me. So one day, I don't even know what happened he told me they broke up. I was happy for me and really sad for him. So, of course, we started dating. I had the best few months of my life. Then one day we were out at the coffee shop, and he saw his Ex. He had a talk with her for a while, and I knew what was coming next. I was right. He dumped me, he told me he was sorry. This is not how he broke my heart, a few days later I wouldn't talk to him, he texted me this really lame story, I didn't believe. This is what he said: Hey, I'm sorry I broke up with you. It's just I never even liked nor loved you, some boys at school (we went to different high schools) threatened they would kill my girlfriend if I didn't date you.

That's what he said. Hard to believe, right? Well, he lied that he loved me and that really broke my heart. I am being really mean to him, even though I love him so much, and I just can't let him go. I will never find anyone better than him.

So, how do I let him go? And, is it normal to still love him?

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  • Carlton03
    7 years ago

    Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwww that's sad, really sorry you had to go through that.... There's no guarantee you gonna someone unfournately, like there's no guaranteed for almost everything in life, but yeah I'm sorry that happened to you, all the best of luck with finding someone, I think it will pass in time, I sort of dated this girl long distance, was an online thing only, I still think about her, but less than I used to.

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  • Curious-trans
    7 years ago

    Cat litter + his cars gas tank...

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  • Sara0303
    7 years ago

    Don't talk to him, find other things to do. It will take time

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  • Dunga
    7 years ago

    Its called blind love. Get over that jerk and find someone better...

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  • RoseIsabella
    7 years ago

    I'm sorry sweetie, but once a two timing whore always a two timing whore. That story he gave you was perhaps one of the lamest most punk ass bitch stories I've ever heard in my whole 46 years! I'm sorry he hurt you, but for future reference stay away from guys who are already taken. What makes you think that a guy who cheats on someone else with you won't cheat on you?

    You might not enjoy what I have to say, but the fact that this guy said, "if he ever broke up with her he would hookup with me", is a great big red flag that he's a screaming asshole and a massive dirtbag. I don't think it's appropriate for a person in a relationship to tell someone else, I love yous unless the person says he or she loves you like a sister or brother. I know you're hurt and still have feelings for this piece of shit player, but do yourself a favor and try not to play the victim here. Every time thoughts of your feelings for him come up you need to challenge those feelings, remind yourself of what a two face this guy is and that you can do better. Additionally I want advice you to stay away from guys who are already taken, because they're not available, and if they present themselves as available that just means they're cheaters who are looking to cheat on their girlfriends with you. Is that what you want? Of course not! Sure that guy didn't technically cheat on either of you, but it's obvious he wanted to have his cake and eat it.

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  • Tempest-au
    7 years ago

    I had something really sarcastic to say, but when I read your story, it made me sad.

    I'm sorry this guy was a fucking asshole who used you and lied to you. Seriously, guys like this need to be lined up against a wall and shot.

    I hope you get through this without looking at all men like they are total sleezebags.

    P.S. School age romances are hard. Give it a few years and you I'll wonder what you ever saw in him.

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  • Digsbie
    7 years ago

    very sorry u had that happen. he was using u n lieing the whole time.time tofind someone new!!!

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  • riffraffy
    7 years ago

    It's normal but not at all rational. Take note of the qualities this fellow has and look for them in other guys, preferably those willing to make a commitment.

    Ultimately though, you're relying far too much on your relationship as the source of your happiness. That dependency drives others away and can leave you empty at the end of it if you aren't careful.

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