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Okay so we've been dating for some time now he wants me to talk dirty to him but I don't feel comfortable with it and just don't want to we are in a long distance relationship I love him dearly but I just can't bring myself to do it.
The 'long distance relationship' aspect of this tells me it's about talking dirty to your boyfriend on the phone whilst he gives himself a handjob.
This isn't going to work, not for him and certainly not for you.The reason it won't work is because, even if you could bring yourself to do it, your discomfort, your timidity, your reluctance and your self consciousness would kill the whole thing.
Some guys might argue that your reticence would actually enhance the thrill precisely because of the discomfiture and embarrassment it would cause you. But I'm sure such titillation would be very short lived and your obvious revulsion would ensure they wouldn't be asking for a repeat performance any time soon.
That said, there'll always be a minority of insensitive, hard core types who'll say they wouldn't care a fuck about your 'embarrassment and reluctance' - but I very much doubt you're the kind of girl who'd say of such a guy, 'I love him dearly'.
You must make it clear to your boyfriend that this is not something you're comfortable with and don't want to do - and If he has any respect for you at all then he'll understand and let it go. If he doesn't and continues to push harder, then maybe he's not the great guy you believe him to be.
At the very least, an unwillingness to put your mind at rest and take away the distress this is causing you, merely in order to enhance his own sexual gratification, suggests he doesn't care for you as much as you think he does. And, for me, this would be a hit below the waterline.
My advice is, stick to your principles, stay true to yourself and tell him this isn't going to happen. If he truly cares for you he'll respect your decision. If he doesn't, then maybe it's time for him to find someone else to help him whack off whilst talking dirty on the phone.
Some ppl enjoy that sort of thing but if your not comfortable with it don't do it. I'd be more concerned with the LDR than how you talk.
I think you're wise to not do that which makes you uncomfortable. Keep you the good work!
But why? Don't you want his stuff and whatnot? What do you even count as dirty talk? Like "oh man i want your cock" or what?
My girlfriend wanted me to talk dirty too. It's normal to not want to do it. I guess I'm not the type that likes it.
It is normal for a boyfriend to want his girlfriend to talk dirty to him but it's up to YOU if you want to do it or not. If you're not comfortable don't force yourself to do so let him know how it makes you feel.