My bf lost his job and the stress is killing our relationship. iin?

I can't understand why you disrespect him in the first place. I can't say this often enough - you youngsters need to treat your bfs / gfs as if they were your normal friends!!

You have no right to abuse anyone - and nor has he.

If you know a fight is going to start, hang up the phone or walk away so that you two can calm down. Don't go looking for trouble, you will have enough trouble as you grow up!

Part III:
I also found that I was spending a lot more time at home. Englishwolfe and I live in a pretty small apartment and little things that the other does get on each other's nerves. It is called "Cabin Fever." If he is staying home a lot more and little things like that are getting to you, then you guys ought to get out and go and do other things for awhile. It helped with us going to the Gym. The gym where Englishwolfe and I go has separate facilities for the men and women. We also took up other activities like various meets, Card game leagues and tournaments, and got ourselves out of the house.

But most of all Englishwolfe would stand up to me and tell me: "There's no need to be such as a**hole about that! Don't get mad at me because you can't find a job." Because of the words of my mother, and because Englishwolfe told me what she did, it often was like a slap in the face to hear it and I would shake it. It was for a few days.
The best thing I can recommend for both of you is patience. Both of you need it. Give each other a little more leeway. And try going out and getting away, even if it is for a walk through the park for a couple of hours.
Communicate; don't fight. Fighting is irrational and will not be heard. when the situation calms down talk to him about it. It will help. You will probably get him to tell you the things I have said here if you do. But stay patient with each other. He is under a lot of stress and probably worried he will have to stand on a street corner with a sign "Will work for food." I know, I was worried about it.

My girlfriend told me one day she wanted to throw me in the garbage can and paint me green because I was being like Oscar the Grouch. It made me laugh and I immediately stopped.

You both are stressed out and yes, it is killing your relationship, but this is one of those times when you both find out what you are made of. If you both can withstand this storm, I think you will be able to handle what life throws at you.

So far with Englishwolfe we have withstood, parents disapproving of our relationship (My parents do not like the furry thing at all.) Having to pack her up when I could no longer afford to have her with me, sending her back to her family, her and I seeing other people for a time, moving her back, having a relationship in secret from my parents for 6 months, reconciling once and for all with my parents (They love her for the effort that was made in secrecy,) A hurricane and three weeks without basic necessities, being terribly sick and having to nurse each other back to health, and finally unemployment, She and I are convinced we could take on marriage and survive it. You will find this will test your metal as well.

And bless both of you. It will get better. I know it doesn't feel like it but it will.

girl, you're there to support him.
Whats a girlfirend for if you can't support him?

Couples spent good and bad times together.

Part II:
I live close to my family and I have some pretty strong family ties to my parents and brother. My mother decided to help me find a new business suit for interviews. She told me to take it easy on Englishwolfe because we have each other if we have nothing else. She was right of course.
It was not fair that my anger was lashing out in all directions. If you look, his anger is probably going out in many multiple directions, not just yours. The only difference is that you probably get more of it because he is more often around you now than he was before.

Your boyfriend sounds like someone you love very much. You talk about him like you do. He also sounds like someone who is rational and calm if he isn't thinking about the situation. I found for me that if I was thinking about the situation of not having a job it made me angry, frustrated, hurt etc all over again. Looking all day long on the internet and not finding a job made these feelings worse and I would sometimes get easily irritated with Englishwolfe. The best way I found to remedy the situation was to go to the gym for about 3 hours and work the stress off in the gym, punching the heavy bag, running around the track or steaming myself in the steam room. He needs to get up and get away from the computer and stop looking for at least a couple of hours every day. Go to the gym, or go outside and get a good hearty, sweaty jog and come back. He needs the break, I did. He needs the time to quit thinking about it. (He should balst his favorite music while he works out.) I found and I bet he will to, that if he does that, he can attack this problem with a fresh mindset and maybe find alternatives or another way to get to it.

you should take an emotional investment break. just give him time to cool off and time to find another job....or you HONESTLY should check out couples therapy if you two talking one on one doesn't help out the situation.

Okay hold on, this is going to be a long one; probably a two or three part post.

First, I understand your situation because My girlfriend and I also are caught up in this too. I lost a job of 5 years because of a restructure. I put my heart, my soul, my sweat and sometimes even my blood into my work. For days and days I tried to rationalize why I was let go. I wondered if I had said something to the new manager, or if he just didn't like me or what. It lead to a lot of blaming myself and anger over it.

I have spent the last four months, practically foaming at the mouth to find another, and it has been a nightmare to find a new job. I have only recently done so and am waiting to hear from them to start and get back to work. Paperwork for physical and background check is what is being done currently. So it is a done deal.

If your boyfriend is anything like me, he feels hurt, angry, frustrated and like he is less of a man. I was taught by my father, who was a work-o-holic, that a man's work makes him a man, especially if he can provide for the household. My father never actually said this, but it seemed evident. And one of the happiest days of my life was when I actually had the words, "Research Chemist" next to my name on a business card. The next came when I was published in an Oil and Gas journal.
The worst so far is when I was handed a box and told to pack up all my personal effects from my lab and desk.

The problem is that most men are told that they are not allowed to show their feelings about it. "Don't cry. Above all things be a man." Not all fathers say this but the peer pressure enforces it. Men focus this frustration and hurt into anger to deal with it. My work defined who I was. It was my reason to get up, my purpose. Losing that was like losing a part of myself. Having it taken away is so frustrating and he like me is hurt because of it. I am sure you can understand, and I am sure if I had explained it to Englishwolfe, my girlfriend, and told her everything here, she would understand.