My bf films me while i'm giving him a bj

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My boyfriend suddenly took out his phone and filmed me while I'm giving him a BJ. When I asked if he was filming me then he said no and turned off the phone. I knew he lied because I checked his phone after that. I was so mad and broke up with him right after that. He said sorry a lot but I didn't know if I could trust him. It's been a month and I still love him but sometimes I feel that he is a horrible person for doing that without asking me first. Is it normal for guys to do that? Should I forgive him?

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  • rltg4711
    7 years ago | pl

    No, don't forgive him. He is just a selfish bastard.
    You deserve much better.

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  • RoseIsabella
    7 years ago

    I hope you looked through his phone and erased any images of yourself you deemed inappropriate before you dumped his sorry ass. Seriously, don't look back, he's a jerkwad. He basically just proved that he's a selfish bastard. He showed you who he is, now believe him.

    You can mourn the loss of the relationship, or whatever you thought the relationship was, and you can forgive him eventually, but don't ever take him back. Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me.

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  • EmmaBlair
    7 years ago | pl

    He is a prick. You were right to break up with him. Don't feel guilty.

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  • bucketfullofassholes
    7 years ago

    He's been showing the videos to his friends, believe me.

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  • FuckingNigger
    7 years ago

    He was probably just looking to show off to his friends about u. He ain't worth it.

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    • Ellenna
      7 years ago

      "Just"???? Without consent?

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      • FuckingNigger
        7 years ago

        Yes. He is obviously a horrible person.

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  • mrbrownfinger7
    7 years ago

    You got really mad, broke up with him and the next thing you knew you were youporns hottest star

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    • chewy
      7 years ago

      You're like Michael Myers. You always come back.

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      • mrbrownfinger7
        7 years ago

        They'll never stop me. Some fucker reported my comments again

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        • chewy
          7 years ago

          I imagine.

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          • mrbrownfinger7
            7 years ago

            For once I being quite good, for some reason I got -3 on a helpful comment about some slut selling her used panties online. I try to offend I get banned, I try being nice I get banned even quicker.

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  • factcheck
    7 years ago

    NO! Do NOT forgive him! People who don't respect boundaries, like him, are dangerous. People who blatantly like like that are dangerous. I bet that, if you think back, you'll remember other times when he did both of those things. And even if it is the first time it happened, taking him back will just teach him that he can get away with it again in the future. You need to stand firm in your decision both for yourself and for any future women he dates.

    Stay away from him.

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  • MR.mr
    7 years ago

    Doing it without your permission is wrong but it could be just a misunderstanding. Lying to you about, there's no excuse for that.
    I don't know if you should've broken up with him over it or not, if he was going to show the video to people, then in addition to dumping him you should've kicked his ass, if you don't believe he was gonna show anyone, then maybe breaking up was excessive.

    Either way, whats done is done, once a relationship is over it's usually best to keep it that way.

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    • Ellenna
      7 years ago

      How could filming someone without their permission be a "misunderstanding"????

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      • MR.mr
        7 years ago

        If your dating someone and intimate with them you might perceive that as giving you the right to film and photograph them.
        It doesn't in my opinion but I can see how someone would see it that way. And it's understandable for someone to conclude, if they let me fuck them, they shouldn't have an issue with me filming them.

        Again I don't see it that way myself, but I can understand how someone else could.

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  • Bigbone
    7 years ago

    He sent me the link. You're not very good at it.

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    • unknownperson000
      7 years ago

      Stop lying. It ain't fun

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  • misslonglegs
    7 years ago

    Normal behaviour my boyfriend takes pictures of me all the time has hundreds on a external hard drive

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  • tittle
    7 years ago

    No, that's pervy and deceitful. Don't be too harsh on him though, revenge porn revenge porn revenge porn.

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    • Ellenna
      7 years ago

      Oh, so if she's "too harsh" on him it'll be her fault what he does with non consensual sexual images of her? He sounds like the type who would've been spreading it around everywhere anyway

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      • tittle
        7 years ago

        If you found videos of yourself online giving blow jobs, put up without your permission, I think you would wish you could have prevented that. Obviously it would be his fault, not hers. Who knows who he shared it with - damage mitigation is what I'm suggesting.

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  • volvonut84
    7 years ago

    Honestly, it depends on how much you charge him. As long as he pays the going rate, no problemo.

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  • horny_simpletons
    7 years ago

    You were right to break up with him, he's an asshole for doing that. I bet he wanted to show it to his friends, which is highly inappropriate to do without your consent.

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  • grldgib
    7 years ago

    My wife and myself have video recorded our private sex, we have recorded each other masturbating, it was consenting, yours was not you should have deleted what was on his phone, some men show things like that to there friends some times with the consent of there partner, my best friend showed me recordings of his wife giving him a blow job he said it was a great turn on for her, you were correct to dump him

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  • [Old Memory]
    7 years ago

    Do you have any evidence that he was showing those pics to his friends or posting them online?

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    • unknownperson000
      7 years ago

      No because I deleted it right after that. but who knows what would happen if I didn't do that :(

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