My bf cant get a boner from me

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this is making me so depressed, my bf had to watch porn before we had sex last time because i cant make him erect

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  • RoseIsabella
    6 years ago

    Maybe he watches too much porn, and as a result is now unable to get a boner from anything other than porn?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      he doesnt at all

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      • [Old Memory]
        6 years ago

        You wouldn't really know how much porn he watches though, partially because it's so readily accessable.

        This a relatively common problem for men- losing excitement in real women because of porn addiction.

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      • RoseIsabella
        6 years ago

        You mean he doesn't watch porn at all? As I recall your post states, "this is making me so depressed, my bf had to watch porn before we had sex last time because i cant make him erect". Which is it? Maybe he's gay?

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          6 years ago

          no hes not !! i was the one to suggest it because he couldnt get it up and porn worked

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  • Nickvey
    6 years ago

    dont feel too bad, he can't get a erect for me either

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      what do you mean

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  • robloxer69
    6 years ago

    mb ur just not hot

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      thats what im thinking :(

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      • robloxer69
        6 years ago

        joking bet u look gr8

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  • rayb12
    6 years ago

    Don't be. If he cannot get a boner from you and is with you this means he truly has feelings for you. This should give you more confidence than anything. It is easy for a guy to have a few girls he gets boners for but typically these ones he doesn't love. Love is rare to find even one person. Also many men struggle to have boners especially for sex. This occurring in the past gives him less confidence and makes it only more difficult.

    The best things you can do is to objectify yourself and carry confidence in your body. Tell him how your butt is big or whatever you can say. Even if you truly see yourself as average or subpar, it doesn't matter. Speaking in this way will make him harder.
    Study how to give better head and tell him once you have started that you are doing this. And keep attempting new things.
    The important part is not where you are but that there is movement and an intention to get him off on your part.
    Tell him that his dick is hard even if it isn't completely. This will make him hard.
    You have to make him feel confident and masculine and strong. These are the things he needs to feel comfortable being sexual.
    And he will still respect you and you yourself but sex is physical and steps need to be taken to get the blood in the right places.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      thank you so much this is very important to me

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    • KnobOnMySlob
      6 years ago

      Now this is good info. Also, it does not reflect on you if he's not able to get hard. I know some guys get too in there head and over think things so it just doesn't happen. It never is the ladies fault if a guy can't get hard, but there is definitely a social construct that makes it feel otherwise

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      • rayb12
        6 years ago

        I feel like you've worded this in such a way to avoid addressing the capacity a woman has to make a guy hard and the huge interest in this both of them have.

        If she fails she shouldn't feel shame, but in my opinion its better we communicate about what does work so they can better enjoy these experiences

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  • Jac0b2309
    6 years ago

    Hey Hmu on snap jac0b2309

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    • Dustyair
      6 years ago

      Oh shut up

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      why

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