My best friend..

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Hi, I'm a Senior in High School and I am so madly in-love with my best friend..We dated for a few months back in the 8th Grade but she ended it, and I still have no idea really why she did. We didn't really talk at all until our Junior year when we actually had classes together, then we started talking a lot more and we became good friends. We would occasionally go out to a friends soccer game or go somewhere to eat or do homework together, and my feelings for her came back like they never left..And now we are pretty much best friends...we know everything about each other, she tells me things she would never tell anyone else. I want to tell her how I feel so bad, but I don't want to ruin our perfect friendship..Everyone in our school is always like, are you two dating? You should totally date. Meanwhile I'm just sitting here, being her friend, helping her through relationships with guys that end up going bad. She just keeps going onto the next guy and I'm always here to comfort her when it doesn't work out. I just don't know what to do..I wanna tell her but I just can't...and I'm going to explode. If I lost her as a friend..I don't know what I would do. I can't live without her..I already went down that road once, and I was sad all the time for like 2 Months, I really, REALLY liked her and I don't think those feelings ever did go away..they were just somewhat suppressed, and now they are back for good..Now we talk every day and whenever I see her or text her, anything bad in the day is immediately gone and I am filled with total happiness. She immediately puts a smile on my face..no matter what she is doing. I love her so much...and I just don't know what to do.

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  • MrSoloDolo
    14 years ago

    same sit. ive told her many times, i want her soooo bad, but she only see me as a friend. a brother almost as she says, so my advice to you, is just put it out there maybe as just playing around see how she reacts, if she reacts negatively to it, just play it off as a joke, and dont keep bringing it up. like most girls i know if she wants it if not now but a later time, she'll say something, but if you keep bringing it up and pursuing it, its gonna bring tension and awkwardness to the friend ship and cause even bigger problems for you, so hopefull your a strong person and you able to keep your feelings to yourslef, but going throughwhat im going through, i reallly hope she feels the same for you dude. cuz im not gonna lie, it sucks ALOT

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  • WayOutThere
    14 years ago

    You are stuck in the 'friends' zone with her; chances are she just sees you as a friend. If you tell her how you feel about her, this could damage your friendship, and make things very awkward. She might distance herself from you. So, I suggest you don't. You're much better off if you keep her as a friend, and start seeing other girls.

    But, if you do want to test the waters, take it slow and easy, give little hints and signals that you want things to turn into more than a friendship. Hold her hand, give her a kiss, go out with her, and see how she responds. But, realize that you are trying to change an existing pattern; she could see this as an unwelcome change, and reject your advances. It could make her feel awkward, as she too might not want to lose you 'as a friend.' So, be prepared to back off, if she's not responding favourably.

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  • Jessicashleigh
    14 years ago

    You sound like a great guy. I agree that you are stuck in the friend zone though.. Try doing subtle things that will hint to her that your feelings are deeper than the friend state. If she acts weird about it or ignores it, then being friends might just be best.

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