My aunt gets us these presents...

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I'm 22 and have 2 younger sisters that are 15 and 13, and our aunt (dad's sister) visits us frequently because she lives on her own and we're her only family aside from her other brother. She gets us lots of presents which is really lovely of her and we appreciate it a lot but...the 3 of us agree that the presents she gets us are kind of inappropriate for our ages. For example, she got me a pink sweater, 3 sizes too big (she insists I'm a UK size 12 when I'm actually just an 8) with a daisy on it.
She sees me enough to know this is not how I dress and it makes me uncomfortable when she insists on me having them. I tell her I don't usually wear these sorts of things and I like darker colours like (black, purple or dark blue)but she says things like "It's good to have variety." or "You'll grow into it." when I'm something like 5'5 in height and have finished growing, and I know for a fact I won't wear what she gives me. My sisters have similar tastes, and she does the same for them. When we correct her she'll say "Oh I forgot you 3 are very goth aren't you?" which makes us feel like satan worshipers when we just like to wear dark colours. She'll repeat this every time she visits and none of us know how to set her straight without hurting her.
It's alright to say that's what aunties do, but she sees us almost every weekend and we feel like she's trying to dress us and change our styles, because she should know by now. IIN?

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  • yesnomaybeso
    10 years ago

    I would say she doesnt like you being goth and she is trying to make us change; she knows you wont like it but she tries?

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  • college
    10 years ago

    I can somewhat relate to this. It could be that she's getting defensive about her taste in clothing. If that's the case, I'd use the sandwich rule. The sandwich rule is that you begin with a compliment (e.g. you appreciate that she's thinking of you), criticism in the middle (e.g. the clothing is not your style and you feel awful that she's wasting money on the clothing), then end with a compliment (e.g. again, it puts a smile on your face that she's thinking of you and you're lucky to have her has an aunt). It doesn't work every time, but it doesn't hurt to try, and make sure the compliments are genuine because people tend to see through the facade.

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  • StraightIntermediate
    10 years ago

    She's probably trying to live vicariously through you. Ask her what size she was when she was your age and if it was 12, then you know what the deal is.

    It's very simple, just indulge her on the rare occassions she's around and when she isn't stick the unwanted garments in the back of your closet.

    Light work.

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  • PureGold
    10 years ago

    I've been in this situation many times. My lovely grandmother, insists on buying me sweaters like the ones you described. I loathe any color beside black. I am not into pinks, purples, or yellows. I can do blues and greens because I do love these colors also. I had a convo with my grandmother and she said that it was ungrateful. I think it's a total waste of money to keep buying shit I won't wear. All I can say is, maybe hint to loving dark colors or wanting a gift card or wasting her money. This is not an easy thing to discuss without sounding ungrateful. Good luck and I hope you get some dark clothes. Nah, screw that, I hope you guys get some gift cards so you can buy your own duds.
    I have a garbage bag full of pastel colored sweater things and hats and scarves. I plan to donate them...

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  • xmxmxx
    10 years ago

    Just don't over think it, say thanks and leave it if I were you, she may not understand because she thinks our generation should dress how she did in her days et cetera. Just be polite and continue to say thanks and she'll be fine. Never expect your relatives to buy you anything you actually like-it's the thought that counts. Maybe next time ask for her to bring a girl receipt so you could exchange for a different size then secretly swap it for something more your style? hope this helped:)

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