My approach to casual dating

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I am a fairly attractive woman in her mid 20's. I've never really had a problem gaining male attention ever since adolescence. I don't really easily "catch feelings" at all when it comes to dating or relationships and have been in what the men considered serious relationships, but I broke them off because it got too serious for me.

Any time a man starts getting clingy or contacting me on a regular basis I start to back away. Is this normal? Some of my girlfriends have been pretty blunt to me about how I am treating men but I don't really see it the same way they do, and some of them are just jealous of the attention I get. I've gone out to bars with literally $5 in my pocket and still haven't had to buy a drink, all I usually do is play along with the guy and give out some fake number.

Is it normal to do this? I feel like maybe it isn't but I also don't see a problem with doing it as I know plenty of men treat women like this.

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  • Livellovelife
    8 years ago

    That's what it did till I ment my husband

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    Sounds like a recipe for a lonely life to me.
    Nobody likes feeling used, but on the other hand it's always nice to have somebody to dance and talk with when at a club, even if it costs some money.
    The fake number thing is just downright unnecessarily cruel but hey, if that's who you want to be, so be it.

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  • Cats_question
    8 years ago

    As hard as this may be. You probably just have to wait for the person that will throw you off your game,

    I'm there with you, I'm probably not as attractive as you from your post. But for now... enjoy it.

    One day you will have to make a decision though. Until you actually want to have a relationship, it is not going to happen.
    Wait until then... then you can choose what life you want.

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  • Tealights
    8 years ago

    Justifying your actions by saying men are doing the same thing to women is immature and stupid. However, you're not entirely at fault due to the fact that the people you date allow themselves to be mistreated and used.

    Basically, you need to grow as a person and not rely on your appearance so heavily. After that, you need to date smarter, because the men you pick up seem to have low self-esteem and just happy to have a pretty girlfriend. When you ever decide to date seriously, aim for a man who will treat you like a person and not a trophy.

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  • TerenceTheTiger
    8 years ago

    I'm sure word gets around about how you treat others, but sounds like you don't really care about it. Eventually your looks will fade and you won't have people approaching you buying you drinks etc based on how you look.

    "but I also don't see a problem with doing it as I know plenty of men treat women like this."

    Since when do the wrongs of others justify our own wrongs? That's a tit for tat mentality.
    Good luck.

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  • deepdankstickygoo
    8 years ago

    Thats not nice. I understand that men use women in similar ways but going and doing the same thing to others just because you know that others do it just makes things worse for everyone as a whole. Once a guy realizes that you used him for drinks and gave a fake number he may get butthurt about it and start using women because of what you did. Butthurt people and assholes just create more assholes.

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