Mutual feelings between teacher and i...what now?!?

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I have had this teacher twice. Once this year and once last year. I am 18 now- and i've graduated, but i wasnt at the time during school.
The first year I was in his class I didnt really get to know him. I know we connected and I was aware that he "favoured" me, but there were no feelings.
This past year was very different.
At the beginning of the year he would constantly flirt with me, small things, and he'd look at me in class, he'd smile at me- basically he would let me know that I was important to him. My boyfriend at the time noticed so apparently it was not that subtle.
I definetly thought he had feelings for me and then half way through the year we kinda stopped talking to each other, and he became aquaintances with my boyfriend.
Long story short I eventually got to talking with him, I opened up a lot and told many personal stories, i really trust him and he told me he was "honoured" by that. He reciprocated the story telling. He also really helped me out when I broke up with my boyfriend- but he didnt seem like "oh yay! you're single" which i think is good in a way. He said he would miss me, he told me on the last day of school that he didn't want to lose touch and he was all shaky and nervous when he hugged me.
He's just turned 30 im 18, he's single and he's an honestly good guy. He's always been reserved which is why im wondering if I'm just being over analytical of all the subtle things that went on between us.
I can't stop thinking about him now that it's summer, the way he would look at me. I definetly have feelings for him.
I know from his stories that he is the type of teacher to remain in friendly contact with some of his previous students...
he away traveling this summer...
am i crazy?
do i need to just put this all out of my head?
like what happens now?
I really appreciate his opinion and his wisdom, feelings or not i definetly want to stay in contact with him. Is there any possiblity that something could happen? Is there any possiblity that he had feelings for me too?

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  • flyingbagel12
    13 years ago

    Gurl you are a lucky duck. Lemme explain...
    Alot of students, sometime in their life, will probably find at least one teacher attractive, fun to talk to/look at, or want to be in a relationship with. I would say 95% of those feelings/akward relationships do not work out.
    Probably for one because he/she is a teacher, the teacher does not like the student back, or because the teacher is already married with kids or just married and already happy. And see you dont really have any of those problems, you are 18 so it's legal. He has flirted with you so ovbiously he is at least a little bit interested, and he is not your teacher anymore so it doesnt matter. IN THIS CASE, go for it. What do you have to loose? It is just like any other guy so the worst that can happen is rejection.

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  • yellowchalk
    13 years ago

    you are 18 and legal, you already graduated, and you've already opened up to one another. I would say send him an email here or there. It might be too abrupt to just out and say "would you like to go out to dinner" but keep in friendly contact and give some subtle hints that youre interested.

    He's single, a grown man, and a little less than twice your age. I cant say for certain but I'm guessing any grown man would jump at the chance to do anything with a young lady, especially if SHE was interested.

    Just remember not to push ANYTHING on him, or try to get clingy and cuddly too fast or you might ruin your chance!

    I have/had a crush on my teacher but he has a girlfriend and I have a boyfriend so I doubt anything would happen between us, but if I was in your position I would go for it.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    As a teacher & you still just a former student he is not going to do anything, assuming there is really anything. So take a deep breath, put it aside, and make plans for yourself as someone who has just come of age as an adult. You have work & continued education to consider, leaving home perhaps, many things, including the possibility of other romances.

    Stay in touch with your former teacher. You can see what develops over time. But build your life around yourself, not him, you are still so young.

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  • funnymoments
    10 years ago

    this amazing story i really liked reading it. i found it interesting why did you stoped ?
    I guess he is quit nervous about his feelings too. it's kind of hard to make this out of your mind.
    do you have any blog where i can read the long story with the boring details please ? :D

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  • alligator3
    13 years ago

    ew!

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  • Gidget
    13 years ago

    i would stay in touch but not get my hopes up

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  • Phildawg
    14 years ago

    Yeah, i had somin' the first proper time i smoked weed(skunk) and the 1st time out a bong...i tripped out like proper, i saw my hands x-ray and things like that! i had the exact same though,"was it laist"but turns out it wasnnt, i'd say that that stuff wassnt either.

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  • tasmanian_angelfreak
    14 years ago

    You are normal. You have to do some more research on how he feels for you now, not then. It might be possible that the circumstances regarding your breakup with your boyfriend changed how he feels about you. I am definitely not saying he doesn't love you, but you are going to have to dig deeper to find out. You will probably lose the best friend of your life if you ask him out. I learned that the hard way with my former teacher. Send him an instant message--one time--and see how he responds.

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