Mutliple phone calls from boyfriend

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We've been together for almost a year. I was talking to him on my way home from work and errands and finished the convo by telling him that my phone was almost dead and I needed to charge it.

I randomly woke up around 3 am to see 39 missed calls. I screenshot the missed calls and sent it to him so he could see that he called me an insane number of times.

He's done this before, I don't remember how many times he called but it did freak me out and I told him to only call me twice if I don't answer the phone the first time and three times if it's really important.

After I sent the screenshot pic he called me and said that he was worried and something about he thought that I was going out to the grocery store but did not call, I did go to the grocery store yesterday so maybe he confused the days. I just kept reminding him that I talked to him when i was in the house.

In the span of 50 minutes he called me 34 times which sounds/is obssessive.

I am a very rational person so I know how I should probably proceed but I love the guy and he is a sweetheart but he worries so much which is probably due to the fact that he suffers from depression. Any advice?

Talk to him about it again 33
Talk to him less (distance yourself) 10
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  • Ellenna
    7 years ago

    So what's he doing about the depression? If nothing, move on, if he is genuinely trying to deal with it I'd be gentle about the obsessive phone calls - sounds as if he's very dependent on you, so you need to decide whether this is ok with you.

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  • Tealights
    7 years ago

    The key thing you need to focus on is: You two talked about this, yet he keeps doing it.

    Aniexty and depression are not, and shouldn't be an excuse.

    What you're truly experiencing is one of the red flags. Calling constantly, is a way to monitor your movements, believe or not, and it easy to mask it under, "I'm just worried about you," even though you're just doing normal everyday things. Plus, you can always call if you're in danger. This will create a habit of always talking to him throughout the day, and any alone time you do have that doesn't include sleep, will be bombarded with calls. If not now, then later; because you will notice that you don't have time to yourself, and how ridiculous the calls are.

    At first glance it seems sweet; especially with the deep feelings you have for him, it's easy to dismiss it or blame something else. However, the facts remain: You spoke about this to him, and he willingly disregard it.

    Overtime, it's going to get worse, and other additional unsettling behaviors will become more apparent. Have a deep serious talk about this with him and see if you can prevent this from escalating. If not, then don't blame yourself, and know when enough is enough.

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  • CorruptedSoul
    7 years ago

    Run!

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  • (s)aint
    7 years ago

    If he has anxiety it´s probably the reason why he does this. Is this the only annoying thing he does?

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  • MR.mr
    7 years ago

    The most I've ever called a girl in a row was 6 times. And that was only because the phone reception was fucked up and I didn't realize how many times I'd called

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  • gingers
    7 years ago

    I think he probably is so attached to you because he feels as if you're the only important thing in his life and the only person that makes him happy.

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  • RoseIsabella
    7 years ago

    Doesn't sound good.

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  • GeneralHater
    7 years ago

    emotionally unstable psycho, who the fuck calls 40 times in a row? get away while you can, people like that don't change trust me

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    • fluffy1uv
      7 years ago

      Harsh

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  • SkullsNRoses
    7 years ago

    Why would you need to call him just because you're going to the grocery store? He sounds obsessive.

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