Mum's reaction to birthday present...?

This really pisses me off that your mom would do that. It's not fair at all and I absolutely HATE it. I think you should keep it and give it to her in secret and let her know that your mom didn't want her to have it. That's what I would do.

"I'm trying to make her dress like a teenage girl", lots of the teenage girls I know wear band T-shirts, what era is your mother living in? And more importantly your sister is 15, not 5, as long as she's not dressing like a hooker she should be allowed to wear what she wants, without her mum needing to pick out clothes for her.

your sister has her own style and your mother doesn´t approve. But guess what? even if you don´t give her the t-shirt, your sister will wear whatever she wants (and she is in her right to do so)so I say give her the shirt, make your sister happy and fuck with what your mother says (I know that sounds horrible but come on, its a t shirt, you are not giving her drugs)

Your mom is unfair, it's not her birthday.

If your mother wants to have your sister dress in a certain way, then let that be your mom's problem to deal with on her own.
If you can respect your sister's preference for a Metallica t-shirt, then just give her the present.

And with terms such as 'goth hippie', it doesn't seem like your mother has the greatest understanding of things. With her being a mother, there will be times when she be motherly or old-fashioned, more than she will be 'right'.

Your mom shouldn't "need her looking like young lady". It's your sister's life and if she wants to dress like that your mom should just shut up. I hate it so much when parents try to make their kids live differently than they want to.

A "Goth Hippie" lol how would that work.

You should buy her the Pantera Far Beyond Driven T-shirt with the original design : )

Go ahead and give your sister the t-shirt. Your mum's concerns are based on her own insecurity and that's her problem, it shouldn't become yours and your sister's. And you have to let a 15 year old express themselves within reasonable limits (which for me, are vast!) Your sister has a passion for rock music - great, roll with it. I had a 'skater goth' phase around aged 14 - the clothes did not suit me in any way shape or form, but I was having fun and it meant a lot to me at the time! Anyway, it sounds like your mum is acting on her own insecurities and not thinking about your sister enough here. If you give the t-shirt to your sister, perhaps you could say to your mum afterwards that you gave it to her because you know it meant a lot to her. If your mum freaks out, then she needs to gain some perspective, to be frank. There are bigger things in the world to worry about than a t-shirt. Also, you're 21, I think you can make your own decisions about what to get people as Birthday gifts now. Lastly, I hope your sister has a nice Birthday.

I think yo mama's reaction would have been normal about 25 years ago! Maybe you can give her a Megadeath shirt instead? Mwahahaha!!! Seriously, your mom sounds hella old fashioned. My condolences to your sister.

It's totally normal for a mom mum or mother (take your pick to do that) you see moms tend to forget what it was like being young on one hand she will protect her precious little child (or at least think she is) on the other she will make your sister rebel and make her worse than she actually is (if that makes any sense at all). good luck.

Should have gotten her a shirt with a very large Slayer logo on the front.

1.You went through all that trouble of finding the shirt
2.Your sister specifically asked for this gift
3.Its just a band t shirt
4.goth/hippie are two totally different styles
5.you cant change a persons style. Some people are just going to be that way no matter what you do
I would say give it to her in secret and when your mom gives you money to buy her something else do it. Buy her another stupid chick gift and tell her your mother didn't want you giving her the t shirt. You sound like a good sibling and seem to care about your sister.

Wow, i think you should give your sister it. If your mom gets mad, people are there, your sister will be there. It'd be bad for her to blow up infront of everyone. Give her the shirt.

I went through my mom trying to change me when I was younger.... Now I sit here typing this in a Motorhead shirt :) your mom is totally unfair

That's really unfair that your mom doesn't accept her daughter's style choice. What she looks like has no influence on what he lifestyle choices are. Your sister should dress the way she wants. Give it to your sister and your mom can just shove off if she doesn't like it! lol

I hate when parents do these kinds of things to their children. Keep the shirt and give it to her when she's 16. (I assume you are in the UK. If you are in England, she'll be a legal adult at 16. If you give her the shirt then your mom will have no say in the matter.) Tell your sister what happened and that you'll give the shirt to her when she's an adult. Give her a replacement gift in the place of the shirt.

I agree with you, she should be allowed to wear whatever she wants. Actually many girls do wear t-shirts of their fav bands.

No I don't think thats normal. But I'm not going to trash your mom.
You should talk to her about this. Many parents have trouble keeping their girls from walking around half naked. I really can't think of anything more innocent to wish for then a shirt.

Your mom sounds lame. I think it's good your sister doesn't try to just like all the same crap all the other kids like these days. When I was 15 I listened to death metal. Now I am in a death metal band. There's nothing wrong with not growing out of it either.