Much higher sex drive than boyfriend..

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I posted days ago about my boyfriend who in comparison to me has almost no interest in sex. We have lived together for a year now and although he masturbates several times a week he only wants to have sex once or twice a week. When we have sex it's great, and I've made it clear that I'm down for almost anything. For a while I was thinking maybe he was just into something he thought I wouldnt like but now I feel like its just that he doesnt desire me. Ideally I'd love to have sex at least once a day, and he shows no interest. He is 23 and I just turned 24, and if you ask me that's way too young to already be tired of sex. Today I bought a vibrator thinking maybe a new toy would get something going and he expressed interest in a pocket pussy. As if I wasn't already questioning why he would rather masturbate, now he wants to get a toy specifically for jacking off. Obviously he wants nothing to do with me and I'm quite upset. I feel as though he would rather fuck a silicone tube than me. I wouldn't care about the toy if he actually wanted to have sex ever but this is ridiculously frustrating and frankly, hurtful. Any input or advice is appreciated, thanks.

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  • Kevinevan
    6 years ago

    What does he say when you tell him all of this?

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  • Boojum
    6 years ago

    Since you say you are having sex once or twice a week, it's clearly an exaggeration for you to also say that, "he wants nothing to do with me".

    You have the right to do whatever you want with your own body, just as he does. So how much the two of you are masturbating is irrelevant.

    What is relevant is the fact that you're dissatisfied with your sex life, but he is apparently content with things as they are. If he knew you were unhappy with how much he has been masturbating since you feel that his sexual tensions should be relieved by sex with you, then him expressing interest in a pocket pussy was insensitive at best.

    If you've made him aware of your frustration and he's unwilling or unable to change his behavior and go at least part of the way towards meeting your needs, then I think you need to deliver an ultimatum. You don't have to live with the frustration and feeling of being unwanted, and he shouldn't be with someone who's dissatisfied with him.

    Sexual problems often arise due to other tensions in a relationship. If the problems occur due to things going on in the head of one of the partners, then they can still bleed out and affect every other aspect of the relationship. If you feel he doesn't want or need you sexually, you may find your interest in him starts to wane. If good, regular sex is very important to you and you no longer find your partner attractive, the likely consequences are obvious.

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