Mixed signals ? is it normal for her to say this but act differently?

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To cut a long story short, I got back in touch with a once close friend of mine. We probably hadn't spoken for about 6 months and at first she asked who I was as she lost all her contacts . After I told her who I was, she said she had been waiting ages to get a text from me so she could save my number! The weird thing is, I wondered why she said that and still do since she doesn't text me! It can be 3 weeks - over a month and I'll be lucky if she flicks me a message. In the past it was basically the same story, though she would text a bit more than she does over the last couple years. I'm a girl if its necessary to state. I miss having her in my life and she hasn't really been part of it for years now. Why do u think she's giving me mixed signals? Why say that you're waiting to hear from me and not make an effort? I don't get it :/ Yes I have tried asking her but her answer was bs !

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Terence_the_viking

7 years ago

Oh my god you sound so needy that is probably why she doesn't text you much.

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  7 years ago
  
  Oh hahar this is funny sarcasm xD
  
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penisdump

7 years ago

Do you hang out in real life? Maybe she's just not a big text communicator...or communicator in general. Some people are like that; if you're not directly in front of them, they won't make too much effort to contact you. But it doesn't mean they don't like you.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  7 years ago
  
  No because she lives ages away that's why I would think she'd at least want to keep up communication.
  
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Ellenna

7 years ago

If she's not giving you an answer it's probsbly because she's a mixed up erratic person who can't be relied on.

I notice she didn't say she wanted your number to text you, but to save it - not the same thing, is it?

Have you told her you miss having her in your life, rather than asking what she's on about?

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  7 years ago
  
  Ahh yeah that's true its not the same but I mean what's the point in saying that any way...It doesn't make sense, I mean if she simply truly didn't want to hear from me then there's no need to say anything as such! No I haven't lately told her I miss her. I have in the past explained my feelings in the way that I didn't feel part of her life and she just text back that I am just not as much as we used to be. I also told her she meant a lot to me but she didn't say anything back. I feel there's no point in telling her I miss her because she probably would say the same and still not change anything. With having said that, we are supposed to meet up soon.
  
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  - Ellenna
    
    7 years ago
    
    Well, just see how it goes when you meet up: if there's a distance there between you it may be time to move on from any hope of this being a strong friendship again and unfortunately, that's just life, people change
    
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      7 years ago
      
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      7 years ago
      
      Thanks for this! Forgot to mention that when i was texting her about meeting up, I asked if she could at least give me one day so i can talk to her in person. She said the only challenge will be getting the money together and none of this 'not meeting up again nonsense ok' Gosh woman, you stress way too much lol'
      I felt it was a good thing she said that right! Like i doubt she would just say something like that for the hell of it ?
      
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      7 years ago
      
      Can't find the post about weather or not she has feelings for me but I saw her today & told her how I felt and asked about the connection & she said it was real but not sexual. She actually already knew and was just waiting for me to say. I told her I think i felt something, she asked "do u think or do u know"? I told her id always had feelings for her . she asked what did I want to do about it, I said that there's nothing that can be done. She was like, how strong are your feelings! Idk why she asked me this when she didn't feel the same? Perhaps she was trying to see if it would affect our friendship or what little we had of it anyhow.
      
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RoseIsabella

7 years ago

Maybe it's a codependent self-defense thing? It could very well be that she might feel somewhat guilty and or embarrassed for not having contacted you, despite the fact that she didn't have any intention of doing so.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  7 years ago
  
  As in her being codependent? Why would she feel guilty or bad if she had nothing there for me in the sense of not caring for me? A better question is- Why would she say anything along the lines of "wanting to save my number", if she no longer wants yo hear from me. I never said anything about not hearing from her for ages so idk why she'd bring it up 0.o
  
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  - RoseIsabella
    
    7 years ago
    
    Well, I'm no mind reader, but I suppose she would do that, because she wants you to like her and think she's a nice person even if she's really just a big old phoney.
    
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    7 years ago
    
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