Missing life

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I've been in love with the same man since he was a boy. He never loved me back. I've thought about him everyday for eleven years. When he's on my mind, i can feel my heart throb and sink. My throat hurts and i get distracted. i know that i would be a more accomplished and fulfilled person if I didn't think about him and miss him so much, but the fantasy of holding him and kissing him again takes me like a gust of violent wind.

Should i consider hypnosis? Is this normal at all?

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  • Corleone
    11 years ago

    No, you shouldn't consider hypnosis. You should consider visiting a therapist, since 11 years is a very long time to have an unrequited love.

    Stop putting him on a pedestal and start noticing his flaws. I'm sure he has them.

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  • Avant-Garde
    11 years ago

    I kind if get what you're going through. I've had feelings for a male friend of mine for about 6 years. I've have had feelings for other people & I don't beat myself over it. A part of me is still hopeful that there could be a possibility between us, but on the other hand, I've realised that the possibility is very slim.

    It's normal that you still have feelings for him, but you need to move on. A part of you could still love him in your heart even if you find yourself someone else to love. Don't beat yourself up about this. Sometimes hearts can change, but sometimes you don't. Talk to someone about this. Don't keep all of your feelings bottled up.

    Good Luck:)

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  • Hypnotic4play
    11 years ago

    Take hold of your life.. move on.. find another partner. you will and they will be better than them who appreciate you as you are. Don't hang on to a dream and worry about something that you cannot influence... Go out into the wide yonder and you shall find happiness.. Good luck

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  • trobcoats
    13 years ago

    Yes you should find a better guy.

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  • Ice
    13 years ago

    I think therapy could really help you, you need to get over this person and move on with your life.

    But you aren't abnormal, this does happen to people, but that doesn't mean you should live with it.

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  • phoenix_paradox
    13 years ago

    Look for "Hypnotica" audios ;)

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  • ~L~
    13 years ago

    Therapy.

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  • demonspirit17
    13 years ago

    ehh lil obsesion thats it

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  • K.T
    14 years ago

    I've been this way before.Like Ophelia.
    It's real hard to get over if you trained your mind hard enough.But I'm sure there's someone else,no matter how pain stakingly it is.ANd if not,some are'nt meant for it.I agree with Shifter.Cry and find another obession.It helps a lot.To get another obession,especially if your good at doing something.
    And if he can acept you as freind then that's good.But if not you got to try to get out as best you can.

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  • Shifter
    14 years ago

    You have trained your mind to make you feel this way everytime you think of him. You need to snap yourself out of it and start moving on with your life. He is nothing but a fantasy to you now, chances are he could turn up at your door right now telling you he loves you, and you will realise that the person you had in your head is different to the man standing in front of you. Thinking of a person for such a long time - especially for 11 years! - causes you to get how you want them to be, and how they really are mixed up. He isn't the person that has lived in your head all these years, you have longed for an image that you have shaped yourself, and tagged it to this person. You need to move on and find real love.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    First you are a bi!!!

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