Missing a mother

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when i was five years old my mom had a stroke and now is in the nursing home and she'll always will be. She'll never be the same, she's not the same as she used to be. Just lately I've been feeling depressed and looking at old photos and videos of her and me and my father and brother. Its been over 9 years since she got sick and I still miss her terribly, and i cant seem to let go of her. I've been crying a lot and i dont know what to do. It feels like theres something missing in my heart and it hurts to think about her and what my life could have been if she was here with me watching me grow. idk if its normal to be so depressed about this when people say that i should be over it by now. i just miss her so much :'[

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  • buriedalive
    15 years ago

    What you're going through is completely normal, regardless of what people said to you. You are, in essence, grieving for who your mother was, which is a process that takes different times for different people, and it can't be rushed. It's not surprising you're going through it now either, since you were too young to work through it all at the time. Are you able to talk to your dad or brother about any of this? You're probably going through the same thing, and maybe you can support each other. Also, you might want to consider seeing a counsellor or therapist, it can help just to have an impartial ear to listen to your problems sometimes.

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    Are you able to visit her in the nursing home?

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  • pao
    12 years ago

    so you are 14 years old. ..no mom. sorry. keep living.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    Hi there. You love your mom. Most who have posted here feel your loss. Me too. You can still be part of her care, as I understand your post. And in that way be connected to your mom.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    life can be difficult

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  • helena
    14 years ago

    Well, you're not a loser...everyone at their own pace...but you'll never be 19 again...20 sucks...so make the most of it; or ul just regret it...

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  • My_Suicide_Valentine
    15 years ago

    Only and idiot would say you should be over it by now. A mother is a person very close to your heart, and it is 100%% normal to have mixed up feelings about her condition. But you will have to try to get over it. I dont wanna get all biblical on you, especially since i dont give God the time of day, but it really is the best advise book there is. Perhaps a significant other (boyfriend, husband)could help you. Im so sorry =( i feel like i really oculdn't help you, htis subject isn't my strong point. Im better at giving love advise.
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    - You know your in love when you dont want to go to sleep at night because she's better than all of your sweetest dreams.

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  • crossvain
    15 years ago

    Sounds normal to me.. and I am sorry to hear about this

    but at least your mother didn't leave you by choice.... mine did..... so be thankful for that

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  • Blackk2390
    15 years ago

    Oh damn, thats so sad I almost cried too, to see my mother I'd cry every day. All I have to say is I'm sorry for whats happen.

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  • kalex
    15 years ago

    Ohh, I am so sorry!
    This almost made me cry!
    I hate hearing sad things like this. It makes me wonder if somthing like that will ever happen to my mother.
    Ohh, I am going to be up all mmight think about this now :'(

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