Men, how often do you cry?

We've all heard the BS that men aren't supposed to cry, but the tired notion does seem to be partially rooted in reality. It seems like, in general, men are more prone to jump directly to anger when they're upset. Instead of turning their emotion inward, men tend to blame others and channel their emotions outwardly. Grieving men often go mute or lash out instead of openly crying or seeking the comfort of friends and family. Of course, not all men don't cry, and not all women cry, but for the men who do cry, what are the kinds of things that make you cry? Men who don't cry, tell us in the comments if it's because you bottle it up to come off macho or because you just don't ever feel the urge to cry.

I'm a man and I haven't felt the urge to cry since I was young 6
I'm a man and I've bottled up my emotion like a real man my whole life 4
I'm a man and I cry about once/decade 4
I'm a man and I cry about once/year 18
I'm a man and I cry a couple times/month 5
I'm a man and I cry once or twice a week 2
I'm not a man, but I have an opinion to share in the comments 1
Other (Please, share in the comments) 4
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  • ArmusWasTheFirstTroll

    Well, I haven't had a reason to cry for over six months. When I do have a reason to cry I do, just not in front of people. I wish it wasn't that way, but the idea that men shouldn't cry has been successfully beaten in to me.

    I believe it should be as socially acceptable for men to cry as it is for women.

    I'm hoping that one day my conditioning will fail.

    Anyway, when my girlfriend and I broke up, I cried multiple times every day for about 18 months.

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  • shuggy-chan

    My dad cried when we where talking about how we used to work together and how I think it influenced me for the better

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  • LuxM4G

    I often cry in movies or games, in emotionally intense parts, if I'm alone. If not, I have to contain myself and laugh about it. Other than that, I don't cry. It's good to cry, chemically speaking, it releases certain chemicals that provoke stress, anxiety, depression.

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  • Cymbalism

    I rarely cry. Maybe about once a year or less, though when I was young I cried somewhat frequently.

    I don't really try to suppress it. If anything, I've TRIED to cry when I felt emotional but it just doesn't happen. *shrug*

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  • I haven't cried since I was really young. I don't like feeling like I've been defeated by myself. I don't blame others much when I'm angry for things I've done but when blame is deserved on someone it will be placed on that someone.

    What I do when I'm angry may seem a bit weird. I'll blurt out things when I'm along and angry and sometimes very quietly say some things randomly in ways people won't hear me.
    Usually I'll just rely on my own voice in my head (no, not the schitzo way, I mean the way when we think in our heads and somewhat hear it in our own voices). I'll either mock myself in my head for being angry and then joke with myself in my own head, which sometimes makes me come off like a complete freak. I could be yelling and cussing, like in a car ride saying "I can't fucking stand him/her. They're such unbelievable cunts!"...Then I'll realize how over the top I'm being, go quiet for about a minute, and then gradually smile which then results in laughing to myself...Weird, I know. Lol.

    If I stump my toe or something I also do this weird thing were I growl while looking at whatever I stumped my toe on, kind of like the Predator noise (the growl/clicking noise). That's mainly because I don't like using cuss words verbally.

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    • LuxM4G

      I'd like to see you growling like the predator on one of those pain inducing situations. I often say "shit!", "fuck me", stuff like that, even though I'm Portuguese, I have an English mind-set.

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      • Aha. My brother tends to look at me like "The fuck you doin?" when I do it. :P

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  • victorygin

    Wish I could cry sometimes, but just can't. Haven't had a "good cry" in about 10 years.
    But I don't get angry or lash out either; that sounds like another tired stereotype to me.
    The closest I have come to crying would be from a movie. But when I really want to cry out of my own sadness, frustration etc. I just can't, even if I try.

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  • Koda

    I might be an emotional person, but I employ crying for its practical uses. Crying physically relieves a lot of emotional stress almost immediately. It's a good way to get something nagging off your mind, whether it be feelings of remorse, grief, depression, anxiety, etc. I read somewhere that tears contain excreted stress hormones and that crying can release endorphins or something. I have control over it, however. The only time I ever cried in public in recent memory, though, was when I was on some prescription for a bit and it messed with my brain.

    I think women might be physically hard-wired to cry more easily than men when confronted with extreme emotion. Obviously, there are exceptions to the rule, myself being one of them. My parents, on the other hand, are a good example of what I mean. My dad is FAR more emotional than my mom. My mom is the one to lead and keep calm in a crisis, and my dad is the kind of person that gets down, freaks out, lashes out, etc. Despite this though, I've never seen my dad break down into tears when he's upset. My dad's upset quite a lot (usually over dumb stuff ^-^), but he either loses his temper or gets sulky. Whereas my mom only gets upset like once every five years, usually when someone close dies. She'll cry, not hysterically, but she will.

    The weird thing is that dad will tear up over a happy moment or while watching a sad part in a film, but he's never broken down into sobbing about his problems. He's a pretty liberal and open-minded person, so I don't think it's because he's repressed his feminine side or something. Like I said, he IS emotional, and he's been known to get shiny-eyed watching soap operas. Trust me, my mom's the last person anybody who knows her would think could ever cry, yet she has, during private, pivotal moments in her life. So maybe it really is a general, physical difference between some men and women that gives women the urge to cry and men no such urge.

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  • gloryholeflasher

    Real men can cry if they want to. Real men can do whatever they want and we don't ask anybody's permission first!

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  • GiveMeAFuckingNameAlready!

    I got a pube stuck in my zipper the other day. Ripped that sucker clean out. A tear almost fell but I sucked it back in. Men don't cry.

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  • Steve2.0

    Cryin' is weak! MAN UP BRO!! YEAAAAHH!!! BROOOOOOOOOO!!!!! BUUURRRRRRNNNNN!!!! BE A MAAAAAAN!!!!!

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  • Arm0se

    I cry, just not in front of people if I can help it. I haven't cried in front of someone out of sadness in years. I tear up out of physical pain and yawns, but that's not the same thing.

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