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Is it normal to become a masochist after you've been sexually abused/exploited repeatedly as a child? I think that during things like this the will to survive kicks in and your brain makes the pain and humiliation a good thing... so you don't go completely insane. What does anyone else think? (And believe me, I'm not easily offended ...been there done that.)
Some people like pain, some people like chocolate ice cream.
I am dominant. I have whipped lots of people. None who didn't come back for more.
Key is to hurt without harming. or in your case be hurt without harming yourself.
No its not normal to become a proper masochist after abuse.
it is normal however for some fantasies to become part of your sexuality after some types of abuse, but theres no rule on his.
if you a truly a submissive the abuse may not actually be the reason.
abuse damages confidence and self esteem but is not so likely to affect sexual responses and desires.
i am a slave or a submisive if you will i know the feeling bc i never faught back i went dormant i get creepd out by tenderness i have to be chalenged i need to be dominated and beaten i get off on the pain and im not talking spank me pull my hai i mean bite me whip me tie me down and make me cry
I think it is normal. I was never sexually abused but love some pain during sex and to be humiliated by words and the nastier the better. I think its because I like to be a bit kinky and out of the main stream and the punishment and pain makes me feel better for doing the kinky stuff. I also feel that if two adults are consenting and agree that whatever they do in the bedroom is there business.
I think S/M is really hot but I'd never do it myself 'cause I'm affraid.
But I don't think you're strange at all.
You developed a trauma because of your childhood abuses and then became a maso. It makes sense.
It could be becauuse of taste, but the abuses surely helped in your case.
I agree with nearly(10533). I'm a big fan of pain and have been for years. I don't think anythings wrong with that.
I'm sort of like you, only pain doesn't feel good for me, I'm just numb to it. I was sexually abused by my neighbor/babysitter and them a few years later psychologically abused by my parents. I'm just numb to pain, but I have also noticed that I have sadism tendencies, for example, I get turned on by the idea of somebody I want to have sex with being humiliated in public. I am interested in your idea that masochism isn't just a perversion, but an adaption to block out trauma.
In my eyes this is a hard one. It has been shown that if you are struck as a child by a loving parent you can confuse the two sensations (love and pain) however is your mind is just trying to cope it means you burying some real feelings.
Please don't be afraid to explore this possibility.
It could however just be that you like pain and humiliation and if that is that case there is a great place for you in this world and many masters/mistresses for you out there.
Find were you are comfortable and that's were you should stay. Be free to do as you please.
yes i think it is normal I enjoy it too I love to be told to hurt myself or do humiliating things by a master on the internet lick being forced to drink my piss or evn more kinky things on cam . I enjoy giving a guy pleasure thro hurting me it turns me on a lot .
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Not obsessed, if that's what you mean.
But it can hard for me to get off unless I'm being humiliated.
You're a fucking nut mate, just finish the job and do yourself in now imo.
no, its not normal wtf. more than likely its just some childhood reco that ur dying to live out. go see a psych and lose all life savings to overcome