Married woman cannot stop thinking of her high school sweetheart

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I am a married woman. I cant say my marriage has always been easy but I love my husband. Receantly my best friend of 20 years has crawled out of the woodwork. this is the guy that was my first kiss and a few years back when I had a true shot at being with him I pushed him away. Now I would never cheat on my husband but I find myself thinking of him all the time...I have dreams about him and in my dreams we are running somewhere or were getting married. whenever i talk to him I get weak in the knees and all my feelings return. I dont know what to do I love my husband and would not cheat on him but this is the ONE man that I would leave my husband for...need advice.

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  • Alaskaraven
    14 years ago

    Wow, allot could have happened since October...

    I am telling you, EVERY single person [mostly men] that have succumbed to the temptation and desire of the fantasy [men go for the sex, women- the love], have regretted it.

    OF COURSE you can't stop thinking about him- you don't LIVE with him. You don't smell his horrible farts in the morning, never heard or smelled him belch, saw him treat a waitress badly, never had him snap at you when he was tired or after a bad day. And he never looked at you like, "WHAT THE HELL?" when you looked like shit in the morning, blurted out something you instantly regretted, or cooked some inedible experiment...

    You see him romantically still, because day to day real life has never been an issue with him.

    I thought I was in love with someone, that swore he was strong enough to handle me- he couldn't even handle his own life; much less any kind of stress, now I'm bouncing checks so he can pay his bills- WTF... His $ problems are disappearing along with all my love & respect for him.

    DON'T MAKE ANY SUDDEN MOVES. If you have a good marriage, make some romantic plans, and get your mind away from this dream you have in your head.

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  • Tammy2tone
    7 years ago

    A one time fuck might be a good thing

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  • abnormalmochi
    14 years ago

    Alaska's right, it's easy to romanticize someone you remember from the days when you were young and life was easy. Hooking up with this guy isn't going to magically take you back to those times, in fact it'll make everything a hell of a lot more painful.

    Fantasize all you like, but don't let it leave your head.

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  • so_damn_unpretty
    13 years ago

    well you should have thought of that before you PRMOMISED to be with him forever, if there were any chance something like this would happen, if you knew you still had feelings for yur first love, why would you marry this guy and lead him on to beleive you would never leave him? dont leave something solid for a 'maybe', really think about this and find out if you just "have to know" bad enough itd be worth destroying and hurting someone you love cause you know this would crush him.

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  • ballroom
    14 years ago

    Do you have children who will be affected?

    After a couple of years, romance is over-rated.

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