Married in our 20s. almost no sex life!!

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My husband works 60 hours a week. His job is highly stressful and I try to understand that. I work from home so I have quite a bit of energy when he comes home. I always want sex.. He is 99.99% of the time "too tired". We have a great relationship. He is definitely still attracted to me. We are having sex less than once a week.. I'm 22. It's honestly torturing me. And it kind of hurts my feelings. He says I'm not but it makes me feel ugly and unwanted. Is it normal for him to go this long? (PS he has no time to cheat and has no social media presence! Lol)

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  • Ass_gas
    7 years ago

    He feels as bad as you but doesn't have the energy to do anything. Make the most of Sunday morning in bed.

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    • Papertrimmings
      7 years ago

      Should I still express interest? Sometimes I don't even want to try. I go to bed crying about it.

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  • Cocktimus_Prime
    7 years ago

    Why can't women ever be satisfied? This dude is working 60 hours a week at a stressful job. He almost certainly isn't cheating and is doing his best to provide a stable home and cash flow for the both of you. How about you just try being appreciative of that? Instead you find something, ANYTHING, to complain about.

    Try just being supportive of him even more, assuming you are already. If you start nagging him at all that certainly won't solve anything for either of you.

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    • Papertrimmings
      7 years ago

      He's been in the military for five years. I've been the most supportive girlfriend/wife throughout our entire 7-year relationship. They make him work whatever hours they want.. It's not because he's slaving to pay the bills! This lifestyle is not easy, man. We don't have time for ANYTHING. I'm just grasping for a connection. Sorry that sex is such a human need for me.

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  • CountessDouche
    7 years ago

    I don't mean to be insulting, since for all I know, you may have children or a job and be busy all day, but are you contributing to the household finances? Why is he working so many hours?

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    • Papertrimmings
      7 years ago

      Our finances are being met; even though I recently quit my job due to my health. Now I'm living the housewife life and working part time from home. I take care of everything else. I really want to do right by him. I just wish if there was something I was doing/not doing that makes him not want me.. To please say something. I'm not that difficult!

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      • CountessDouche
        7 years ago

        I'm sorry. I didn't mean to imply that you weren't contributing, which you obviously are.

        Lack of sex in a relationship can be incredibly painful. Even though, intellectually, you are aware that he is probably just overworked and exhausted, it's still difficult to rationalize that and not see his refusal to have sex as rejection, as something personal, as if you aren't sexy or desirable. It's ok to feel that way.

        Have you told him how you feel? Is it possible to set aside time every few days or so to have fun together? Have you tried something relaxing, like massage or a bath together at the end of a long day?

        This is something that needs to be addressed if it makes you unhappy, regardless of long hours and stress, if your relationship always comes second, then it won't last. You guys need to have a serious talk about how to solve some of these problems.

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  • Goku19
    7 years ago

    Does he not get holiday ? LOL !

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  • Gspyder
    7 years ago

    This is what failing at life looks like. If he's too tired to fuck he's being worked too hard and something needs to change.

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  • Mike_hunt
    7 years ago

    That's how my girlfriend felt. I was working two jobs and I could tell she was always wanting when I got home. She would always joke about me always being tired and imply it was okay but I always felt like shit. He's probably aware but just doesn't have the energy.

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  • CD(✿◠‿◠)
    7 years ago

    He's tired, the real test is if he gets like 3 days off and still doesn't wanna have sex, then you know there's a problem

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    • Papertrimmings
      7 years ago

      He got off early today and we did! Woo!

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      • CDmale4fem
        7 years ago

        Did everything cum out alright ? Do you feel better ? Thats ok we can see your "fresh fucked face and grin".

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  • RoseIsabella
    7 years ago

    Have you talked to him about any of this?

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  • Curiouscatso
    7 years ago

    All you need to do is just crush some viagra and drop it in his juice...

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    • notmyfirstaccount
      7 years ago

      Umm, thats fucking illegal

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      • notmyfirstaccount
        7 years ago

        If they dont know, obviously

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    • Papertrimmings
      7 years ago

      LOL I would feel way too guilty. I wish though!

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  • mtmarried
    7 years ago

    My wife has experienced the same scenario before I answer though. How old is he, what branch, and what work does he do now?

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    • Papertrimmings
      7 years ago

      I'm not comfortable disclosing any of that.

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      • mtmarried
        7 years ago

        You will find out in duetime then.

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  • Mario214
    7 years ago

    I would suggest you to give him some massage. You may learn about relaxing massages from a theripist. It will help regulate blood flow and decrease tiredness.
    It will take some time but he will be less tired after work and receiving it from you will improve your physical relationship.

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    • Mario214
      7 years ago

      At begining he will fall asleep during massages. let him sleep. As I said it will take time but I hope it will improve things.
      I wish things get better for him and you you too.

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  • Papertrimmings
    7 years ago

    He's in the military. Am I not allowed to express that my needs aren't being met? I'm not here with him because I have to be, I'm here because I want to be. I am extremely supportive of my husband. He is required to work that many hours and I put in my best effort to make sure he has everything he needs to go back to work the next day feeling refreshed, fed, and appreciated. I thought men liked being appreciated sexually too.

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  • Curiouscatso
    7 years ago

    Everything is illegal. Ive been crushing birth control pills into my gfs breakfast in bed for the past 2 years.

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