Married, but still in love with me? iin?!

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My ex and I have been broken up since high school, so approximately 6 years now. Our relationship spanned over the 4 years, but it wasn't serious. Kid stuff, ya know? Our lives went their separate ways during this time. We now work at the same place and we picked up where we left off instantly. I like him even more than I did back in the day. He comes over to my area and flirts with me EVERYDAY. We started hanging out again outside of work and it quickly turned sexual. Everything was going great, I thought, then I came to work one day and he tells me he married his child's mother. I was devastated, this was completely out of the blue! I picked myself up and I tried to be friends with him still. About 2 weeks passed after he got married and he was back flirting with me and trying to take me out. I refused for months. I told him I don't date married men and he kept insisting that marrying her was a mistake and he didn't know what he was thinking. He blames it on withdraw from weed (lol) and he swears when he gets his self together financially he is going to divorce her. He always complains about how unhappy she makes him and how much they argue. He came by my house the other night and we ended up kissing, THAT'S IT. I know it was wrong, sue me. He calls me almost every night, just to play on the phone. It's cute. I love this guy, but I think he's just a player. is it normal for a married man to act this way? Do you think he's actually gonna divorce her?

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  • chance2
    11 years ago

    No, it's not normal. It shows he takes this sort of thing lightly and if you get seriously involved, there is no reason to believe he is going to take a relationship with you any more seriously.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      Ah, thank you for that. Very good advice!

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  • Justsomejerk
    11 years ago

    Why the fuck would be want to get ahead financially BEFORE a divorce?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      Good point. He's viewing it in the aspect that he'll be able to get his own home and such. They haven't been married that long, so he would be getting an "annulment." Wrong wording on my part.

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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    I think you should keep ignoring him.. I don't think you should even keep up the friendship since he doesn't seem to know the friendship boundary. Find yourself another guy and forget him.

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  • 1000yrVampireKing
    11 years ago

    Oh it was only 4 years but nothing serious. You know kid stuff". How is 4 years not serious to you? No you obviously do not know the meaning of commitment and neither does your ex. He is an asshole for cheating with you and not telling you about the other women. You should stay away from him and not talk to him anymore. Since If he is really this way he is probably going to toss you under the bus if you get caught. Try explaining that to his wife when he blames you.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      We were on again, off again. That's why I put it that way. I wouldn't let the 14 year old me define how I view commitment today. Can't speak for him though. lol I'm gonna try to distance myself from him. I don't want it to go any further than it already has.

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  • Jeaneathean
    11 years ago

    Dump the fucker. Immediately.

    He will not divorce, and you deserve SO much more than this.

    You sound like a decent person. Do the decent thing for yourself and his wife.

    I wish you well.

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  • highrider
    11 years ago

    I was gunna read this but there was to much and im lazy

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  • dontgiveup:)
    11 years ago

    It's okay girl. But I think you should just stop seeing this guy. It was okay for you to flirt with him while he was single, but he's married now. And he's not going to leave her, you said it yourself, "he's a player" so what makes you think that if he does divorce this other woman, he won't play you as well? Let him go and move on, there are a lot of men out there, don't focus on him. Good luck!:)

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  • liveliphee
    11 years ago

    Ur a sideline ho* sorry but true. Who sleeps with a married man. Girl u need to get yo life
    #wack

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      I have not slept with him since he's been married, shug. We kissed that's it.

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