Married and no friends

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Been married for over a year, and it seems that the only supportive people of it are my parents and grandparents. Everyone else, which includes my sister and friends haven't been. My friends tried to talk me out of it, and a year later don't even care to talk to me unless they need life advice or someone to complain to. I'm wondering if it has come to that point where it shows who truly is a good friend or if I'm on such a tight leash by my husband, that no one wants to associate with me. Is it normal for "friends" to lose touch at these times?

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Based on 44 votes (19 yes)
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  • Koda
    9 years ago

    If you feel you're being controlled or trapped in anyway, get out. Maybe your friends plain don't like your husband, but maybe they're scared of him, or scared of what he might do to you.

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    Tell us more about this tight leash business.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      I replied to another comment on here with some examples on that. And another example is when he would look over at my phone whenever I texts my friends or sneakily go into it or my computer. (I don't know if I'm being paranoid about that, maybe?). He hasn't been doing it so much recently due to my friendships dying down now. There are other things he does too, can't use the restroom/bathroom without him unlocking the door and busting in

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  • GiveMeAFuckingNameAlready!
    9 years ago

    Every time a couple gets married two single people die. You sir died.

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  • CoraCook
    9 years ago

    I was completely isolated by my ex. He was antisocial and I was part of his family, though he wasn't part of mine. It was horrible. Why do you think people avoid you? Or is it you who does it unwittingly?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      That's how my husband is, doesn't like socializing with people much either.

      I think the reason why my girl friends avoid me now is because the times I have tried to hang out with them(and without him), he would constantly bomb my phone with calls/texts and freaking out. So in a way they don't want to deal with that drama, and I guess it is a part of me avoiding being social now to avoid problems too.

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  • Tommythecat.
    9 years ago

    Yo friends are cunts and hippopotamuses

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  • rex
    9 years ago

    why would your friend try to talk you out of it?...

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    Quite often when someone gets married their group of single acquaintances seem to drift away. Perhaps it's jealousy, or because our interests change, but whatever the reason, it is pretty common. Your new acquaintances will probably be married couples and it will be OK.
    You "friends", if you had any "real friends", haven't gone anywhere; they are still there for you.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      You're right, there have been changes in their life too. Makes sense that they haven't made the time to talk to me. And have been making new friends that are married/in serious relationships, that's always nice and may take some more time too.

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