Marriage: sexual assault issues

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My husband and I are constantly fighting about the past and making jabs at each other. I did a lot of things wrong in the relationship in the beginning because i didn't know how a relationship was supposed to be and I took my residual problems with my sexual assault out on him, and yes it was wrong and i regret it greatly and i am currently in therapy to work on those problems on my own but we always back lash at each other and i nit pick him because he spends all night on the computer and doesn't help at home or with the kids (im a stay at home mom he has a hard factory job) i know hes tired and needs to destress but all night and to the point where doesn't spend time with me or the kids i just feel like we just argue i love him i do but what do we do.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    Whatever it was that attracted you to him and he to you must be the focus of your marriage right now, if you want to save it.
    Does your lashing out at him over these things bring the desired result? If not, why continue?
    Instead, just accept for the moment that things are the way they are and try to make little changes. Send the kids away (to a friend's or grandma's) for a weekend and wear something sexy and serve his favorite meal. Plan a fun weekend away. Change the routine of fighting, because you two have developed an "even bad attention" is better than no attention relationship.
    It will be hard to break the old habit of fighting and it will seem it's all on your shoulders to do so, but if your marriage is worth it, then what have you got to lose?

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  • KingTermite
    8 years ago

    I think it may be time for some serious reassessment. Ending the marriage may seem daunting, but it may actually be the only path to any sort of real happiness for either of you.

    When a relationship has so much baggage that you can't get past it, sometimes the only thing you can do is just start over with someone new.

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  • Steven3,0
    8 years ago

    If you guys break up, just let me know, I always dreamed of marrying a guy like that.

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