Male who dreads sex

Stop jerking off to porn would be a good start. Of course that's easier than relating to an actual woman but if you want a relationship you're going to grow up and focus on the real thing

You should limit yourself to partners who also don't like sex.

Condom sex isn't really sex at all, it is mutual masturbation. You have no genital contact, no exchange of bodily fluids, no passing of a threshold of vulnerability and trust. It is especially not sex if you're doing it with someone you don't care about. This does NOT mean you have to love her, but you do need to feel some sort of meaningful bond, so that there is a high from the basic fact of getting naked with her, pleasuring her, and especially arousal from kissing and eye contact. If these things aren't central to the act then of course it's going to be a tiresome and unrewarding chore.

I've been having regular sex for 30 years, during which my porn habits and erectile luck have varied from one end of the spectrum to the other, but I have NEVER felt about sex the way you describe, and I think it might be that I only ever had sex with women I loved or who were good friends, and I rarely used a condom. The thing to do is tell your girl you're willing to wait until she's ready, but ready means no protection. No pressure, but this isn't casual hookup sex and you want her inside and out.

Do NOT risk getting a woman pregnant by not covering up. Even the pull-out method is not real effective because of pee-cum.

Here is an idea - are there other parts of her body you might enjoy getting off with, like doing a pearl necklace, her giving you a foot job, hand job, head, or whatever? Of course you reciprocate by eating her out or playing with her pussy.

Sex doesn't have to always be penis in vagina. It is actually just as much work as it is fun to do a traditional fuck. Kind of a chore really.

Just enjoy pounding your pud. There are many advantages to it: you do not have to support the costs and time to meet a consenting partner. It’s risk-free in terms of STDs such as HIV, hepatitis B and C, gonorrhea, chlamydia as well as other sexually transmitted diseases; your climax is more intense, more enjoyable; it’s quicker, less messy, less expensive; you can dream you are having any form of socially unacceptable sex you can imagine; there are no emotional or financial entanglements, and when you’re done you can get right back to doing whatever it was you were enjoying before your hormones interrupted you.

Maybe once you get into a serious trusting relationship, you won't have to wear a condom anymore since she'd be on the pill and you'd both know that neither of you have std's. Plus then you won't feel so pressured to perform well cos she'd be more understanding than someone new. You could just try being honest with this new girlfriend, that could then help it to develop into that kind of relationship.

You are sexually anorexic due to your obvious addiction to masturbating to pornography. What you need is to stop masturbating to pornography!

Stop masturbating. Restrain yourself for a few days and sex will be as fantastic as you thought it'd be in your teenage dreams. Try different poses, more foreplay to get her more excited.

The best sex happens when your girl is very wet and very hot. Just her breathing, moans and how she moves is more satisfying than anything else. Biggest turn on that keeps you rock hard and ready to explode.

You are overthinking it a bit. Just fuck her dude. If you cum too quick just play with her clit. Use a vibrating wand on her clit. Or just pull out right before you cum and take a break while eating her muff. Then go back to pounding her once youre ready and arent about to cum.

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