Making excuses to stay in

IIN...When my freinds ask me to come out, i always find myself making excuses to stay in. I almost make excuses to myself aswell "meh, it wont be worth the money and the hassel" etc. I always picture the worst bits about going out, hangovers, taxis, or il imagine it being shit. Im starting to become so negative.

Thing is i miss my freinds, it's just when it comes down to it, i can't be botherd to do anything. A few years back i would go out 3 times a week and would do anything to get out the house, the amount of nights out ive had on cheep cider and the shear will power to party are unreal.

Nothing seems to interest me much anymore, i'd rarther sit and play on xbox live all night. Is this part of growing up? I sure hope not, i dont want to turn into a depressed mess. Im not exactly rolling in cash at the minute either which doesn't help :S

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  • FrancoisDillinger

    same thing happened to me.

    Luckily, my friends would let me pick the places we went (because I was full of excuses)

    We went to a few places I liked, but it was visible they were uncomfortable ( I like dive bars and hipster joints)

    I looked around at all of them and realized how much they cared about me. They genuinely wanted to hang out with me.

    That's when I decided I was selfish, and in order to keep around that awesome bunch; I was going to have to start compromising and do things that made the people around me happy.

    I did. It helped get me out of my shell, and i've not looked back since.

    hopefully that story helps.

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  • flutterhigh

    "cheep cider and the shear will power"

    So are you a baby bird, or a sheep?

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  • What Dappled said. You may be showing signs of depression, but that should be assessed by a professional.

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  • CheyChey

    you're growing up simply aging not changing. sometimes when we grow up we don't always grow together get what i mean, it's okay to have different interests & to realise you're different from your friends. do your xbox thingy but try to at least hang out with them and do different things it doesn't always have to be some big drunken night out, also i don't think you have anxiety or depression today's society feeling a bit down is misinterpreted depression because we've conditioned to think that way which isn't usually the case.
    our friends should accept the new you change is good if they cease to be your friends well then they weren't real friends in first place. goodluck with it.

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  • Faceless

    Get drunk and play XBox live with your friends online. Duh.

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    • nowhereboy

      This happens often.

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  • Captain_Kegstand

    I used to go out every night, now I limit myself to Saturdays and Mondays (I get off most Tuesdays and its illegal to sell cars on Sundays here so i'm off that day too) Part of that was me growing up, although if you have absolutely no will to go out at all even though you miss your friends, you might want to look up depression, agoraphobia, and anxiety disorder.

    Personally until I got help for my anxiety disorder I was the same way as you. It took me months for my anxiety to get to the point that I knew there was something wrong with me!

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  • dappled

    It's not up to anyone on this site to say whether you are depressed or not but there are a couple of warning signs there. It might be worth discussing it with a doctor. In my country, they now apparently make you fill in a little questionnaire which assesses how you are feeling.

    Putting it another way, you've got nothing to lose.

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    • nowhereboy

      I do suffer with a little depression, alongside Pure-o and anxiety issues. I guess this contributes to my staying in. I kinda hoped it would be unrelated to be honest.

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      • dappled

        Maybe it's completely unrelated, or maybe it's not. You might as well find out, eh? Anything I say doesn't make anything true or untrue.

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