Loving one parent more than the other

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I have this family thing where my mothere has been in and out of hospital for years and been unwell at times.And cause f that my father played both rolls of mother and father for a long time going to school things and ever thing that we needed him to go to.Thing have improved abit and mum has got better in some was.But I find my self alway going to dad and wanting not to have mum around.My mum got hurt when I was about eight and because of every thing that has happened I have lost my love for my mother and I do not nthink that I will ever get back there.I just find that I love being with my dad.Is it normal to love one parent more then the other or even not love one parent at all?

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Based on 43 votes (37 yes)
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  • Yona
    13 years ago

    The thing is I have been understanding for over 20 years and after a while you get to a point where it makes it abit hard to have feeling in any way.After a while you have to put the your self and keep the ones that are healthy healthy while trying to keep the little love that you have for your mother there and when it has been this way for over 20 years it become abit hard.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    I like my mom more than my dad. I guess she's easier to talk to. I think it's normal to like a parent more over the other.

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  • randomjelly
    13 years ago

    Your poor mother. You need to reach that maturity level that lets you understand that her being gone was not her fault. She may need your love more than you could possibly know.

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  • MercedesBenz
    13 years ago

    You need to imagine if you were in her shoes. How would you feel hearing this news? It is not her fault that she was sick and under hospice care.

    If you're not part of the solution to this situation; then you're part of the problem.

    Work towards creating that familial relationship, otherwise you're just as much to blame.

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  • Caps90
    13 years ago

    Given your situation it is normal to feel that way. And please do what the comments above said even if you really don't want to!

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    I agree. You should try to establish a bond with your mom. Even though you lost some love for her, she never will. Try to bond with her, hang out with her, and as above said see things from her point of view. I'm not a mom yet but if I were, I'd be devestated to find out that my child doesn't love me a lot anymore because I had gotten sick and hadn't been there.

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  • squirrelgirl
    13 years ago

    I think your feelings are normal given your situation. It's not that you don't love your mom; you probably just feel a little resentful that she was never there to support you because she was always the one needing support. It's natural that you would feel more attached to your father because he was the one who was always there for you. However, I believe that you should try to strengthen your relationship with your mom by spending more time with her and trying to see things from her point of view.

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    • [Old Memory]
      12 years ago

      her dad probably molested her

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