Loving 2 people at the same time

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I'm a lover of a fiancee, she's at a relationship for the past 4 years. 3 months of cheating (we went out 5 times, one of them having sex). At first, said to me that I was her future boyfriend, that would broke up. But at the end of january, didn't do anything and we decided to stopped hanging out and trying keep distance (we work together and see each other 8h per week. Yersterday, I tried to say all my feelings, and the answer: "I love both of you in different ways".
Is it normal to love 2 people at the same time, even after months of cheating? PS: she is 20, boyfriend 24 and me 23

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  • ellnell
    4 years ago

    This isn't love

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  • blinkeredharlot
    4 years ago

    Was gonna say yeah you can love two people at the same time but with cheating? Nah thats not love you dont lie like that to people you love

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  • Mark92
    4 years ago

    Non of these are love, its lust to satisfy your sexual desires, the relations you described have nothing beyond that.

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    • MissWolf
      4 years ago

      I agree with mark. My baby daddy, he said he cant choose between me and this other girl so I left him. Not playing no sister wives shit...

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    • Mammal-lover
      4 years ago

      Right, just cause you like someone or are working them doesnt mean you love them. Personally I dont think I could handle being with 2 people at once. Unless one is just a hookup thing then sure but like committed na ah couldnt handle it

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  • Whatintarnation
    4 years ago

    Why would you wanna be with someone who would cheat on their fiance?

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    • KholatKhult
      4 years ago

      Exactly.
      If they will cheat with you they will cheat on you.

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  • litelander8
    4 years ago

    I couldn’t get through the first two sentences. It just doesn’t make sense.

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    • Grunewald
      4 years ago

      How often do you make sense when your heart is being royally broken, litelander? Cut OP some slack.

      OP, 'love' is a very flexible word these days. I can well believe that your girl 'loves' you both in that she has feelings of attachment for you both. But she doesn't have respect, faithfulness or kindness - and in my opinion, love is those things, too. And they are things that people owe to each other - especially people in relationships.

      'I love you both in different ways' is a bad excuse. People can say that about their friends, their children and their colleagues. But the kind of 'love' in those cases is different.

      When it comes to sex, there shouldn't even be a 'both'.

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