Love the chase, hate the relationship...

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I guess I'll start by explaining myself a bit. I'm 18 now and a bit worried...

I've dated guys, and when I mean date, I literary mean just dating, as in old fashion dating, getting to know someone better, not in a relationship but you know dating. <~ I'm sorry but some people have asked me what dating meant to me, so just to throw it out there that's what I think dating is.
So basically, I've never had a boyfriend. I love it when guys chase me, but for some reason once they legit like me, I can't like them back.

Is it because fear of commitment? I think I commit myself pretty well to everything I do.

Also, when I do get close to having a boyfriend, and we start to hold hands, I have nice butterfly feelings, but after a day it's gone! IS that normal?! I mean I get along with everyone just fine, and I'm known to be a socializing person who really knows people and cares about them. I'm also known as a listener, because I keep secrets well, and really listen & give advice. Does it influence why butterfly feelings just disappear on the second day?!

Or perhaps it's because I'm young? Either way, not having a bf until now seems a bit tad weird no?

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  • bigtoy
    12 years ago

    Why rush if you're not ready? One day someone will come along and you'l be so head over heels that you'll only realize after that the butterflies didn't disappear.

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    • springxuan
      12 years ago

      That's cool! I hope life will turn out like that for me.. Sigh~

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      • bigtoy
        12 years ago

        It will - look around you and try to spot someone older who never found their soulmate eventually. People always do. It'll happen. Just get on with your life until it does. You're young and have loads to do before you get into something serious. Either way, just be careful not to get hurt when you think you've found the one - people can be so cruel sometimes if they think you are smitten.
        All the best!
        m

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      • SoccerStud88
        12 years ago

        keep hopin it prolly wont ever happen

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  • chatter289
    12 years ago

    Just so you know, even if you do find the 'one' butterflies will never be there all the time. You will have to start working for the relationships to work. Things don't magically make the relationships work.

    You are still young so no need for you to rush, but just keep a heads up, relationships will not always be butterflies and lovey Dovey all the time, they'd require hard work like everything else in life, so the sooner you understand ha the better, s next time you don't feel likely don't have butterflies for the gut anymore, it's normal, you just have to both work on the spark

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    have your fun :)

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  • sweetheart7
    12 years ago

    Hmmmm not sure but maybe you just haven't found the one yet...

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  • NothingxCrazy
    12 years ago

    I'm kind of like this. I find the flirting and getting to know each other part a lot of fun and it really gets my heart going, but once we settle down and start making it a routine thing with seeing each other and going out, it becomes the norm and it's nothing special.

    But you need to understand that it's always going to be exciting when you first meet someone and first learn about who they are. In time that excitement DOES die down.. for everything I think. But if you meet the right person, you'll want to stay with them no matter what.

    I figure you are young and don't want to get a bf to tie you down so it's normal. But be sure not to carry this into your adulthood because in that case you won't let yourself be happy. (Not to upset you)

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    • springxuan
      12 years ago

      I hope it never carries into adulthood. I think if that were to happen it's be better for me to be singe...

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  • MyHazelLabyrinth
    12 years ago

    There is a chance you could be a commitment phone, it is interesting actually that commitment phobic people actually have higher ideals about commitment than others.

    Or it could simply be that you like to be desired but once you have been caught you get bored with it. Who knows. You should do some reflecting on it to find out.

    But age has nothing to do with it, just thought i'd pop that in there too :)

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    • springxuan
      12 years ago

      I think that might be the case too... =.=" I think I'm just in a young age... but 18 doesn't seem so young lol.

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