Love hurts

I am a guy and I know for sure I'm not abusive so we are out there lol. For me it seems fairly easy to figure out which guy is abusive or not.

But I can see how it is hard because I seen how these guys can change their attitude in order to please a woman they want. You could try taking it slow, seeing what others think of him like his friends or friends girlfriends. If you go too slow for him an abusive guy will most likely dump ya quickly.

If you really want to be safe try walking up to a guy who seems hot and asking him out. Chances are you wont pick an abusive guy.

If you are with an abusive guy leave. Dont stay because that is what you think what love is because its not.

"I feel people are nice, and end up so much in love, then I start getting hurt and abused"...

USE LUBE!!! ;)

i totaly get what your saying.
i have been hurt in much the same way.
but i gues you have to learn that not everythings perfect, and you just have to hope for the best, and just get on with life.

hear the song from incubus love hurts

I once read that, if you keep attracting a certain type of person, you need to look at what within them attracts you. Sure, you're not attracted to ABUSE, but if you look hard enough, all of these abusive guys have something in common that attracts you. The trick is finding out what that is and learning to see it as a warning sign instead of an attraction.

Perhaps some counseling would do you good. Have you considered taking a break from dating and getting into a really good counseling program?

That is the real thing... life, by definition, is selfish. Maybe you are a wolf, maybe everybody is a wolf in a lamb's clothing, don't think that you are better or worse... life is like that. The own fact that you find someone attractive is abusive and selfish, try to abuse back, get in the game, would you love some really fat and ugly? (i am not, but this is a proof that everyone is selfish). Sex is just a strategy to some animals to survive, and abuse is one sub strategy. Plan your strategy too!

sometimes you may think your being nice but the bf may see you as childish or unintelligent due to the fact that you don't assert yourself like a professional adult. this will inevitably lead them to feel frustrated and lash out at you knowing there will be no response!

I totally get it.i'm like you.over and over abused! We r too nice with people,That is the problem.

if ur 2 nice you may be atracing abusive people, but not every ones is o is going to be like that

u ever told em str8 in their faces that theyre being abusive n told em what behaviour u hate bout em? for example girl tells guy that hes retarded for teasing her,that dude wont ever do it again, or ever had heart to heart talks thats basic if u want a real srs lasting good relationship u will know what ur partner is about

First, it seems you're way too trusting. You can't just fall for some guy who sweeps you off your feet when you first meet. That's a recipe for disaster. You gotta give him the run around.. make him want to be with you! Usually, this'll filter out all the terrible guys you don't want to be with (hopefully).

Also try hold back how quickly you fall for someone. If they truly want to be with you, then they'll follow you around for awhile. But don't do it for too long, then they'll just think you're a hopeless case and move on.

And if you find yourself with someone who's starting to get abusive... Honestly just cut your losses and kick em to the curb. Cause if they're abusive once, you get bet your ass it'll happen again, and again. Good luck!

*Wolf in sheep's clothing* <- /fix'd

the life is not love it is just temporary sex