Love advice please

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It's not an is it normal I know but I really need some advice.
There is this guy, who was a player (he supposedly "changed"). I always had a thing for him, you could say he is my weakness. We used to like each other and flirt a lot but I never let anything happen between us because I knew he was just a player and I'd just be one between hundreds. The thing is he was in a serious relationship for a while (weird thing for him) and recently he broke up. The very same day he broke up he was already talking to me, but it was innocent talk. He even talked to me about his ex. And then we talked and talked and talked for hours. The next day he talked to me again, and so he did the next and the next. I tried really hard to be cool and not fall for him again, but I think I already did. I had gotten completely over him, I had really forgotten him... and now I think I like him again. I guess that wouldn't be necessarily a bad thing but the deal is I'm not even sure he really changed. I'm pretty sure as a player he'll always be a player (he was really a fucking idiot). And also now we're talking less and less. Not sure if he got bored already or his phone is messed up though haha
But he was so sweet and nice and fun and special and seemed very real. And then again I know that's how players work...
But I haven't let him see that I have a thing for him. He has no clue how much I like/liked him so that's cool at least. And I know he thinks I'm really hot and likes me a lot. So yeah, he doesn't really know the power he has on me. What do I do?!?!
Thank you in advance for any replies. I'm just so confused :(

Don't talk to him. He's still a player. 7
Go for it. This could be a great opportunity. 3
Be neutral (specify how because it's really hard). 5
I have an awesome idea/awesome advice (comment please). 1
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  • iknowimweird
    11 years ago

    I really think you should save your time for someone worth it. Like you said, you'll be one of the millions. I've dealt with this, I thought I loved him. Now it's just like "you were so stupid, haha"
    He's not worth it hunny (:

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    he does seem to be sending mix signals, but its not really ideal to see a guy on the rebound in most cases, and it sounds like you want something more meaningful then just a fling from him. Have you tried talking about how you feel to him (know that might be quite scary) but the only way you're going to know for sure what his intentions are is to ask. If he says no for a long term relationship that might hurt for a while because you've fallen for him (been in that situation before myself) but it will hurt less then if you committed to him and realized later on he's still a player. If he offers something like FWB then walk away, you deserve better then that. By all means keep in touch with him if you want, but admire from a far if he can;t give you what you want. Good luck - were all here for you :)

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      Thanks for taking the time to read this and answering. You're right, I should just ask him what he wants. Scary, but I may do it. Thanks again!

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  • False
    10 years ago

    Once a player always a player. Burn them all

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  • o_0
    11 years ago

    "lets see which way the cat jumps"
    let it go the same way and wait till every thing it self gets clear... till then dont let your feelings comeout and dont rely on him too much..

    secondly if you dont trust him how will this love last longer... you can give him a chance ...

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