Losing emotions towards women. iin?

I remember how it felt, as a young guy, to be in love with a girl. But, as years went by, I’ve slowly been losing interest in women (with men, there has never been any interest to begin with).

It’s funny, because I respect women much more now than I used to when I was younger. However, back then, I could fall for them. Now, there is nothing except for distant, clinical respect and recognition of their achievements and an emotionless awareness of their existence. But there is no excitement, no joy, and no thirst for adventure. The thrill is gone, completely. And I kind of miss it.

My problem is not that I will never have a girlfriend again. The thing is: I want to at least want one, but I just don't.

p.s.: I’ve seen quite a lot of “I've had it with men”/”I’m done with women” posts on the internet lately. Therefore, I figured that maybe there are more people here with stories similar to mine.

Questions:
a)Does too much respect stand in the way of love?
b)Has anyone else ever lost the emotional attachment to their preferred gender? Is it fixable?

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Based on 39 votes (24 yes)
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  • Koda

    I wouldn't call that losing emotions... I mean you can feel emotions toward someone that aren't infatuation or lust. You can get mad at your mom, think your brother is funny, feel proud of a friend, etc. Those are all emotions, so I wouldn't worry that this is an emotional disconnect. I just think you haven't found a girl that thrills you or impresses you. You're just bored with plain everyday girls. When you're young everything is new, so it stands to reason you've just gotten used to what was so novel as a young man. Maybe looks just aren't enough for you anymore, and you need to find someone new and get to know them. Maybe you'll find someone exciting. By the way, you should do the same with your friends. If your friends are boring and you don't feel good around them, they're not enough, and you deserve to find friends that make life better for you. Maybe you need an emotional or an intellectual challenge.. like a child in grade 4 who should be in junior high.

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  • maybe be friends first with no hint of romance or lust

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  • Vampyra

    Maybe you haven't met the right woman yet?

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  • 69

    i understand being uninterested in emotional attachment but not for the reasons you stated. what is this excessive respect you're talking about? i tried hard to get it but i have no idea what you're on about. have you been hurt by love or is it unrelated? not knowing more all i can say is i think only time will tell if it's fixable

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  • Mr.Hate

    You came a long way shithead, it's time to beat up women now.

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    • Vampyra

      Be careful there, Mr. Hate-you will eventually try that b.s. with the wrong woman who is carrying her best friend-a smith & wesson..

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  • Nephew7

    As long as you get the D up who cares

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  • rosa333

    I feel exactly the same towards guys. I have no emotions towards them whatsoever, and I definitely miss the feeling of excitement when liking someone.

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  • bemah

    Yes, I'm a girl, and i feel that way about guys. I'd say that love is respect, so i wouldn't worry about that one.

    God luck anyway. :P

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  • RomeoDeMontague

    Well I have had many relationships. None of which really lasted. One relationship lasted for 2 years and than the spark just died. Most of my partners have broken up with me for petty reasons or betrayed my trust and cheated on me. Over the years I have kind of lost the thrill in it. I tend to be popular with the opposite gender. So it was never hard getting one but it was difficult keeping them. Most people do not care about relationships and will drop anyone on a whim. So I could see how that might get boring after awhile. I feel the same way as you do.

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  • "clinical respect and recognition of their achievements"

    The problem is that you suffer from "fuckheadedness"

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    • Fuck you too. Asshole.

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      • No, just because you don't like chicks anymore does not mean you can fuck me.

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