Looking through his/her phone

My husband has the password to my phone and I have his. I never check it but just knowing that we are able to do so when we want to without permission gives us a great sense of trust and we are able to talk openly about things. While you don't have to give up your entire privacy because you are in a relationship, think about this? What is it that you want so privately hidden that you don't want your partner to see? If the question is none, then why put such barrier between you and your partner. Only because you can or because you are too stubborn and want to feel a sense of independance? Answer the question yourself then figure out if you really want to be in a relationship were independence is defined by a piece of electronic device or something greater than that.

No, it's invasive to their privacy regardless of whether they have anything to hide. I don't think that not wanting your phone thoroughly examined for incriminating evidence necessarily is a declaration of guilt, more a declaration of wanting to be trusted and that having a private life is important. If you think your partner tells you *everything*, then you can rest assured that there's probably a *lot* they're not telling you.

That was directed at the world at large, not specifically the OP :P

That is pretty immature and insecure. Seriously, if you can't trust your partner then you need to have a talk with them about it, not try to find dirt on them.

For all of you who said 'never' is total bullshit! Obviously you have never been in a relationship where you truly truly do love someone and when you feel that they acted a bit different you wouldn't look through their stuff? Bullshit! Hey, at least I admit and will say yes, have only done so when I have suspected something and what I suspected was true and my gut was right so it pushed me to check which made me find out the truth.

So, before you go on saying 'oh your insecure and bla bla' insecurity is the cause of the effect of the partner acting unusual and an out of place action. Don't tell me that you would all sit there and pretend something is right and yes you go ahead and ask them and they give you a response to which you know is not the truth will you still then do something and live in a happy ever after farytale? I'm sorry but everything we do and act is a reciprocation of another's action and a built in mechanism, yes we may master to control it but it's part of us. Once lost is trust tha is it, suspicion is ur new best frienf

I don't think partners should look through eachother's phones. Then again, they shouldn't have anything to hide.

I would hate it if my fiancé looked through my phone. I haven't cheated on him, but it would be an invasion of my privacy.

Also, even if your partner isn't cheating on you, they might have conversations that they don't want you to see. For instance, they might talk to a close friend about concerns about the relationship or turn to a friend after an argument. If my fiancé has talked to anybody after we've had an argument, I really don't want to know what he said about it while he was angry, and I wouldn't want him to know what I've said either. It's not because I've told other people secrets about him or anything, it's just that I know I've said things that would be hurtful to him if he read them.

No, absolutely not. What are you, a fucking KGB spy? lol.

Phones and computers are a part of our private lives to which we're entitled. Being in a relationship doesn't mean you have to give up your privacy entirely, and if you don't trust your partner -well, you shouldn't be together.

It depends on the nature of the relationship.

Personally, I don't mind if my husband ever looks through my phone. I don't do or say anything special and I doubt that he even looks for anything. I have looked through my husband's phone because sometimes he takes cool pictures and I send them to my phone.

Other than that, there shouldn't really be a reason. If you're going to look through someone's stuff, be honest about it ajd your intentions. If your partner likes privacy then give it to them. But if you're the type to get upset every time you see some girl texting him or you don't like that they wish for.privacy, you're not.ready for an adult relationship yet.

Seems a little clingy/stalkerish to me. If a girl asked me to look through my phone I would be happy to let her, but sneaking through there, I would be a little put off!

No! It's a invasion of privacy.

With permission or not? I let my ex look through my phone but she did ask first.

It's always in the Far Realm when I'm not using it, inside the Living Vault. No one but me knows the password.

We go through each other's phones but not all the time.

you could ask can i look thru your phone? if he says yes then smile and dont bother, if he says no, say have it your own way ......

My phone is password protected and I think I may encrypt it too.