Lonely, bored and living alone

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On the surface, to those who don't know me too well, I'm very interesting. I have a great boyfriend, am studying for a career in archaeology, and I volunteer quite a bit for a co-op.

But, I live alone and aside from my boyfriend, I don't really hang out with anybody. I have acquaintances from school or volunteering, but no one who I feel close enough to to invite over or go out with, and I know it's not good to have my boyfriend be my only social outlet. I don't even have family nearby. It's just me and my cat.

I won't be working or in school for another week or so, and my boyfriend is out of town. I'm recovering from being sick so even solitary entertainments like riding my bike are out. It's times like this that I think I'm REALLY boring and get bored and depressed.

I hate sitting around at home watching TV. I've done a lot of the things you're supposed to do to make friends (take classes, volunteer) but it just doesn't work. Am I normal?

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Based on 131 votes (106 yes)
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  • waterbottle123
    14 years ago

    I dont have any friends either... just acquaintances... my husband is the only person i talk to, besides my mom. i wish i had friends but i think i have some trust issues and maybe social anxiety, ive been burned one too many times. it gets very very lonely at times, sometimes i hate the human race and sometimes i just hate myself.

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  • CommandarCommandoSURI
    14 years ago

    Someplace deep within me I was hoping someone would say something like this, well hear me out: I used to have everything you know.. but I used medications for my nerves, after a while I tossed everyone away, I felt like a superhuman, I was too cool, always out there, opened myself to none, started making "fake friends" (yeah that kind) then I tossed them away too, what the fuck did i want anything to? I stopped the medications, same deal I felt stronger faster, I learned new things.. but Now... BOOM I feel lonely, I somehow yearn for human feelings again, and quickly realized none of those around me then where anything but real. I do have a family, but I broke up with my girlfriend after my feelings died out...

    Id say this is rather normal, and even if the situation is not normal, I like to think that you and me indeed are normal human beings. Thank you very much for telling this, makes me feel like I am not the only one out there...

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  • disthing
    12 years ago

    I know exactly how you feel. I was in a similar situation with my old girlfriend. She was my only social outlet, I'm not close to my family, I lost my friends over time, so I was in this sad little bubble, floating about feeling like I was outside looking in. I think it's normal for people to fall into these periods in their life.

    Hopefully you'll climb out of it; either something will come your way, or all the waiting for something will make you go find it. Good luck :)

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  • gentleone
    13 years ago

    Do what you enjoy doing, how you do it. You have your own ways and others have theirs. Bored? Get creative in entertaining yourself!

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  • Galaxy500
    14 years ago

    all you need to do is find one person with many many many friends.

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    • [Old Memory]
      14 years ago

      Yes. You are normal. And ill. Get better. And keep doing what you do. Dry spell, socially.

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      • [Old Memory]
        14 years ago

        Oops, that wasn't meant to be @ anyone but the poster.

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  • collins1
    14 years ago

    friends are overrated try going to a church gathering for young adults.

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