Let down by parents - what do you think about this situation?

Many people might decide to throw some life morals on you about how you should be able to do this and that on your own and such but I don't think its that complicated. You're supposed to follow through with your promises and when you don't, people get hurt and trust is broken. It could have been that they just didn't have the ability to help you out but if that was the case and they still wanted to help you, they wouldn't have thrown in that rude entitlement line. Of course you didn't feel that way, you wouldn't have felt disappointed if it wasn't for their promise in the first place and I feel they should own up to that.

You feel entitled to the money when you should not be.

Talk about letting someone down! I hate that. If you say you're going to do something, you follow through. I wonder how they'd have felt if their parents had done this to them. Seems like they're failing to see things from your angle?

Typical asshole parents. My parents don't do that kind of thing to me because their parents did it to them their whole lives (both families being wealthy, like yours). I don't think they do it as if they were dangling a carrot, like you say. If you ask me, the problem is that they are so greedy and materialistic that it's just stronger than them. In the distance they will think reasonably. You are their son, it's a wise investment you'd be making, any way you want to see it, lending you the money is the right thing to do. But that's when the time to put up the money is far away. When that time comes, they just can't let it go, even if it's for a good cause, and even if it's a loan. They are not sadistic liars or anything like that, they are just greedy. The only problem is that they don't like to see themselves that way, so the temporarily lie to themselves by lying to you too.

Bro, that sucks but they probably aren't telling you everything. You know their monetary situation better than I do, and they know the latter better than you do. If they didn't give you a real reason, and deflected the question....they don't want to tell you the real reason. You probably don't know how much of their income is truly disposable. If they invested it, they invested it because it was in their best interest.

Also, they did accuse you to deflect blame (because no one wants to acknowledge their own BS), but truly explore yourself. Are you entitled? You say that you are hurt because you are not going to receive the money. It seems like you felt entitled to the money because it was promised to you. One may be deserving of things, but no one is entitled to anything.

You kind of just have to swallow your pride, and look at your next best options, independently. I can see why you would be hurt but you should learn from this. Don't get excited over promises of future-action, even from your parents. They are only human. They want to make themselves feel good by promising things. Most people flake promises, whether there's money involved or not.

I've gone through something like this before. My brother told me that he would give me 1000 to help me get veneers a few years ago, but he spent it on himself instead. He spend well over 25,000 on things that I felt were trivial. I was and am still a little hurt because as time passes my front teeth become more sensitive, and I'll never get as good of a deal as I had back then. I never brought it up because...I was never entitled to it. It would have really helped me but that doesn't entitle me to his money.

Just to help it come full circle. My folks wanted to help me out. Tried to get a loan and couldn't but instead of tell me they just avoided it, out of embarrassment. When I found out, I really hurt for my parents. I know they love me...regardless of what they give or are able to give. I wish they hadn't even tried to get the loan, personally.

You don't know what their issues are...take a deep breath...call them and make up.

Listen. They said they would given their circumstances at the time. For some reason they decided against it. It's their money and you aren't entitled to it. You need to let it go. They are your parents. They raised you. Fed you. Gave you shelter. For reason's they may not be able to tell you they can't help you. But guess what...you can help yourself. Save money like everyone else. Maybe they are teaching you a final lesson about life. You're upset because its not going to be as easy as you had planned given circumstances that are no longer relevant. Those circumstances have changed. Take your parents out to a nice dinner or make them a nice dinner. Tell them that you understand why they cannot help you out and that its complete fine...that you overreacted and tell them you love them.

You catch more flies with honey than vinegar.