Last chance to ask her out online?

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Long story short, I met a girl in College and since about my third time speaking to her, she's been in my head and refuses to leave; though I have no idea why specifically. I'd say she's average attractiveness, and a rather different person from myself; yet I've never taken to anyone like that before.

Fast forward three years or so and I've still not fully moved on, despite my trying (I even tried just not being around her and it really didn't help). Now she's graduating this year (I'm a year behind, 'cos I struggled a little) and I find myself once again asking if I should just make a last ditch attempt on Facebook and just see if I get a reply. I get that it's far from ideal (well it's terrible actually), but that's really my only way to do this (I don't have her number or anything).

Logically I'm thinking this is a horrible thing to do, but by the same token why not? I'm likely never going to see her again anyways so I literally have nothing to lose.

Some other important information -

- Without going into detail there's significant reasons to think she might have liked me back, and about the same amount to say otherwise
- I'm a very reserved person because I have terrible self esteem, hence why I didn't act sooner.
- We did talk more than three times, though still not as much as I'd have liked.
- I haven't been constantly thinking about her the whole time, it's just occasionally she crops up again (often for no reason) and I feel like I should do something - i.e I still like her.

So Internet, is it normal to want to reconnect after over a year of no contact following some limited and awkward in-class flirting? Is it normal to even take to people like that at 21-23 years old?

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    If I were you and really wanted to connect with this gal, I'd figure out her class schedule and plan a way to meet up with her in person, to ask her out.
    I think your plan is a sure fire recipe for failure and underneath, you realize this, too. Saves you from actually getting a date.

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  • theseeker
    8 years ago

    To answer your question, I think it's somewhat normal. I've met a couple girls in previous classes before that seemed really cool, but never found the opportunity to get to know them more when maybe I should have.

    Over a year of no contact and she's still stuck in your head? If you haven't actually had ANY contact for a year, randomly and unexpectedly meeting her might look a little weird. I think your best bet would be to try to find the right opportunity on Facebook to engage a conversation with her and ask to meet her somewhere that way. Although, I'm no expert.

    If it doesn't work don't take it too harshly, and move on. In all honesty, I'd say your chances aren't likely. You should've asked her out a year ago, but it's still worth a shot. It sounds like you should try to break away from yourself and get out more. I'm sure there are other cool, nice girls out there you just haven't met yet.

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  • Short4Words
    8 years ago

    I agree with the sailor. You need to organize an accidental bump-in.

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