Ladies: please answer this. (im a confused 18 year old boy.)

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Ladies i know its long but i really need you to tell me what life you would rather have for you or maybe you have a daughter what would you rather have for her?

There is this girl that i am completely in love with, but her boyfriend is my Best friend. Well i say my best friend, he actually left me to walk home on my own at 11:20 and i got mugged. So he can't be my best friend.

Anyway this kid is a real letch and is always asking her to buy him stuff and then says "you don't have to get it me, its up to you". He knows that she is to polite to say no and he will get what he wants. He never has a bath and you can sometimes see the grime on his hands and neck. He has also quit his college course and is planning to live off of Government handouts. He sometimes cant be bothered to walk her home after it has got dark and she has to walk through a mean part of town. She on the other hand is the complete opposite, She is extremely well kept, Pretty, Smart, Funny, Kind and very very smart. I don't see why he is more appealing than me. Ive told her that id do anything for her and she knows that. ive got her tickets to see Ramstein and meet iron maiden. I keep myself tidy, have a wash, brush my teeth and all that shizz. And im doing a college course that most likely will land me with a job that can earn me from £700-1000 a week. i know that its not about the money, all im saying is that i could provide for her and take her all over the world. He couldn't even buy her a packet of chewing gums because he is to lazy to do anything with his life. Her mom likes me more than her boyfriend.

What im asking is, Which life would YOU rather have.

1: paying to feed your boyfriend while he Claims state benefits and is always talking about how he would f**k other girls if he wasn't with you (Behind your back).

2: Have a boyfriend that would take a bullet for you and not sponge off of you because he has his own business trade at the age of 19. A boyfriend that will stay with you no matter what. And that wants to spend the rest of his life with you.

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  • Anime7
    10 years ago | pl

    You have to admit, your answers are pretty one sided. I don't think it's necessarily fair to say this guy is a douchebag. Well scratch that, I think you're downplaying her boyfriend and heightening yourself.

    There is a guy I know who is a complete asshole, but deep down, way deep, he's really just a shy guy who would rather be loud and have people know he exists than be the quiet kid in the corner watching life pass by. I know this from talking to the guy by the way. Anyways he has a girlfriend and she is a nice person, but he will be mean to her sometimes and say rude stuff and she takes it sometimes. Thing is that they're both lonely people apparently and in some weird way they make a good couple. She will (jokingly) slap him sometimes by the way to show him when he's crossed the line, so she does keep him in check. As much of a douchbag as he is, I've seen him do some romantic stuff for her and show her that he cares.

    If this guy has done bad things to you, then of course you'll see him as the villian and yourself as the hero. But the thing is that who's to say that this girl doesn't like the guy she's with or that he doesn't do romantic things for her once in awhile? Let's be honest people aren't perfect and sometimes we can be complete douchebags. Doesn't mean we're bad people, it just means that we have our bad moments. Even you have them I'm sure.

    I understand where you're coming from, but I think this is something that you should just not get involved in. You've made your feelings clear (according to your post at least "Ive told her that id do anything for her and she knows that"), she's made her choice and the person she wants to date is not you. You can always tell her how you feel, how you think this guy is wrong for her, assuming you haven't done this. For the moment though, she is taken. But hey, the right girl will come along someday and see that you're a nice person. That girl isn't her and you have to accept that man. But like I said, you'll find that girl someday :)

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    • JustCallumHere:)
      10 years ago

      Im not exactly a kiss ass. Ive been more comfortable around women because my dad walked out when i was born and ive been raised in an all female house. All my friends at school where girls because all the other boys used to bully me because my dad left and it got worse when they found out that he was killed. I was in a really dark place all through my GCSE's and she is the person that actually stopped me from "doing something stupid". Ive had a lot of crushes but this is different. She is the one for me and she saved me their relationship wont last. Because she is starting to see how controlling he is.his idea of romantic is sitting at his house and watching him play halo.i spend everyday with both of them so if he had one romantic bone in his body id see in and have a heart attack. She keeps complaining to me saying that he is selfish talking about hi behind his back. The only reason that she hasn't ended it yet is because she knows that he would talk shit about her and She would get shunned by all of his friends. She has given up all her friends for him. Ive had her crying down the phone to me about him and that hurts me to know that he would do or say something like that. I might tell him to clean his act up and start treating her a bit better.

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      • Anime7
        10 years ago

        Well based on that, then I say you are a very nice person. Alright well I say tell her bluntly how you feel, but also tell her that no matter what her answer is, you'll still her best friend.

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        • JustCallumHere:)
          10 years ago

          I'll tell her how I feel...fingers crossed she doesn't tell him or he might kick my head in. Thanks for the help "Anime7" and everyone else x

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          • Anime7
            10 years ago

            You'll be a good husband to a great girl one day. I hope you know that bro.

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            • JustCallumHere:)
              10 years ago

              I hope so...Im gonna try my hardest with this girl.

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  • kawaiigurl
    10 years ago

    there's more to it than just the general sugar coated side you are saying. maybe she likes the fact that her boyfriend is the way he is maybe she believes that opposites attract. if she wants you she'll let you know. don't bad mouth your 'best friend' just because she is with him. i'm sure if she is as great as you say then she knows whats shes doing. and when you really like somebody you're willing to buy them things with no problem

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals
    10 years ago

    Maybe he's got a big dick?

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    • JustCallumHere:)
      10 years ago

      But mine is 25 inches long and 12 inches thick.

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    • JustCallumHere:)
      10 years ago

      Maybe...XD

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  • (s)aint
    10 years ago

    Love doesn´t work like that.

    She obviously has feelings for this guy, respect it.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    What kind of friend are you if you talk all this shit about him.

    You a gimp.

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  • youareaghost
    10 years ago

    you crying about it like a little bitch isn't going to get her.

    go find someone else.

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    • JustCallumHere:)
      10 years ago

      Lol, your funny XD

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  • JustCallumHere:)
    10 years ago

    Loooool the 3 people that voted life 1

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  • Aliceee93
    10 years ago

    Come with me Friday dont say maybe.. Whenever you get an opportunity to show her and pick her up from him then do it. Maybe she's scared of him? You don't know what happens behind closed doors.

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  • JustCallumHere:)
    10 years ago

    Well Ive been reading the comments, Ill always love her no matter what, ive never felt this way about any other girl that i thought i liked. I want you all to know im not bad mouthing him. We have been like brothers but ever since he has been with this girl he has started to show his true colors to both her and me. If there where any good things about him id 100% put them down. I just don't like her crying to me when he is being a prick to her and saying shit like "I wish he saw me like you see me" and "Why cant he be more like you".Im no saint. I failed my GCSE's but that scared me into taking things more seriously. He will be perfectly happy living off of her. Im tired of listening to it. Ive got to the point where i don't even care if i end up with her or not i don't want to see him hurt her anymore. He just doesn't give a shit about ANYTHING. To be honest even after they split up. Im gonna feel sorry for the next girl that ends up with him. The only reason still there together is because of me...He was going to end it 3 months ago because She wouldn't buy him Halo 4!! He is telling her who she can be friends with and who she cant. He tells her when she can come out and hang with his mates (Me and 2 others). He will never go out of his way to put a smile on her face. But im past the point of caring and i Know it won't last because She is starting to see that she has no friends because of him. And because she will not be able to afford next years college course because of him. I Thank you for your opinions it has really helped. xxx

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