Ladies: is it a complete turn off for a college guy to live at home?

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I'm a sophomore in college, and I had an accident during spring 2012 that resulted in serious injuries including a traumatic brain injury. I had to withdraw from school for the semester because my injuries prevented me from being able to return to school. I spent the entire summer recovering. Last fall I had to focus on school and *nothing* else, because residual cognitive disabilities from the brain injury made school more difficult for me(brain injuries take a *lot* of time to heal)

Currently I need support from my family so I can focus on school and getting back on my feet. The university I attend is a commuter school, so most people who don't live with their parents also commute to class from the surrounding metropolitan area. However, not only am I a commuter, but I also live with my parents.

Until now I've been so busy recovering and getting my life back together that I haven't been able to focus on relationships. But I'm more than ready now.

So, ladies: is it lame that I'm a college kid living with his parents? I dont even feel like I'm in college. Because of my circumstances, I dont really feel like a loser. However, that doesnt mean my situation isn't lame. I can't bring a girl back to my parents house, I have 4 other people living in my house. Thats why I couldn't have sex in highschool. If I dont have my own place to bring girls back and mess around, isn't that lame? Please, try to not patronize me. I just want your honest opinion, not sympathy. I'm not feeling sorry for myself, I have accepted my situation. I just want to know what to expect so I don't get disappointed or discouraged, and the only way I can know is if you are brutally honest. So do me that favor, please do not sugar coat your responses. If you aren't currently a University student, imagine you are.

YOU aren't lame, but I cant date a guy without his own place 13
If I like you I can adjust my expectations and we can make it work 65
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  • Justsomejerk
    11 years ago

    Buy a van, man.

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    • WasThatAMoth
      11 years ago

      I lol'ed hard on that one

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    • purplegirl22
      11 years ago

      Like Kelso!

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      • 53739
        8 years ago

        Kelso didn't need college to graduate from the police academy.

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  • forever_anon
    11 years ago

    If a man was in his late 20's or older, capable of getting a place, and still living at home because he lacked motivation to move out, that would be a turn off. But your situation is different. Living at home due to economic reasons and personal setbacks is something that no reasonable woman would blame you for.

    Best of luck to you in your recovery.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    I've never known it to be an issue. Now if you're fucking 30 living with your parentals and you don't have a job and aren't going to school and don't have a good story to explain why... then yeah, total turn off.

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  • MargieRooster
    11 years ago

    Financially, some guys HAVE to live at another person's house or parents' house in order to go to college.

    As long as a guy is ambitious and wants a higher education, well that's a pretty big turn on for me.

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  • Avant-Garde
    11 years ago

    There's nothing lame about it especially, if its a necessity. College is very expensive nowadays and a lot of people can't afford the expense of living in a dorm and I'm sure this is becoming more and more of a common occurrence. Personally, I don't think anyone who considers your living situation to be lame is worth starting a relationship with.

    Good Luck on recovering!

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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    I didn't read it, I'm just asnwering the title question. I would date a guy who's living at home if he's in college. If he's graduated college then no.

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  • I_Hate_Usernames
    11 years ago

    Yes it would be tough that you don't live alone, BUT if I had my own place it wouldn't be a problem because we could just use my place. Then we still have our own places to go back to during the dating period.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      ;)

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  • WasThatAMoth
    11 years ago

    Your not lame, relax. I am also attending college and several of my friends live at home with parents. School is really expensive so they commute. They are some of the coolest ppl I know, its just that money is tight.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Doodle.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      you're pretty funny

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      • [Old Memory]
        11 years ago

        Whatever.

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  • dietcoke
    11 years ago

    You have a long life ahead of you, and it's unlikely you would live at home forever. In addition, personality is key for relationships. Unless you don't socialize at all in uni, I don't think girls would judge on your character because you live at home. If they do, they are the ones who are lame.

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  • SangoNyappy
    11 years ago

    Not really why would that be turn off? I wouldn't mind if you lived with other 20 family members. Anyways if you're worried about having you own place you can do it in your girfriend's place for a while

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  • NothingxCrazy
    11 years ago

    I'm very sorry to hear about your accident. I do think it's better for a college student to live at home. It takes some stress of of them so they can truly focus on their future. My sister is graduating this summer and she's still living at home. My brother is on his second bachelors degree and he lives at home in between semesters. His college is further away but he was living at home when he went to the college in my town.

    I think it's the best thing for you and it's not at all a turn off. It's logical. I would think you were lame if you were struggling to live on your own while in school.

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  • CollegeIsNotAsAwesomeAsIImagin
    11 years ago

    economical, plus why not a motel

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  • lc1988
    11 years ago

    It's economical nowadays. No biggie

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