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I'm a 30yo male who had only had sex a few times. One time I couldn't come and other times I came way to fast. I have little experience at all. I have met a special woman and things are heading towards the bedroom and I don't know what to say. I perhaps consider myself a virgin and think I should tell her I am so she doesn't have expectations I can't match. Would this be a torn off for most of you?
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Well the best way to please a woman is to understand she is different then all they other women in some small way sexually.You kiss her in the bed,put your face extremely close and say "what do you want me to do?" And if her response is "whatever you want" your good so long as whatever you want isn't stupid as fuck.
You said you've had sex a few times so you're not a virgin. No point saying you are if you're actually not.
Just tell her you havent had much experience and lets take things slow. Takes teh pressure off both of you.
if shes cool and yallre honest then there should be no problem
if not she might see yall as a novelty
Don't lie! DON'T EVER LIE! It could destroy what might have been a partnership for life.
Don't discuss it at all. Let things progress naturally.
First, if you think you are getting way ahead of things and are going to cum too soon, think of things that turn you off, like killing kittens, for instance. Anything to take your mind off your excitement.
A lot of foreplay can get a gal ahead of you in the excitement department, helping you both to a simultaneous climax, but that isn't really very important early on in a relationship, so don't stress.
Cumming prematurely is not the end of sex. There are plenty of things you can do to continue giving her pleasure after you've cum and bring her to orgasm. Go online and research. On the other hand, your goal here is not your satisfaction, but hers, so not cumming is no biggy in the scheme of things.
But MOST importantly, keep your mouth shut and don't put a bunch of unimportant ideas into her head. Things could workout just fine.
If you like beautiful virgins, you should fuck catholic priests. Only the most REAL of women can enjoy these yummy men.
Oh God, no! Not That I haven't seen some really beautiful, handsome, young priests, but I would NEVER want to take advantage of a priest, NEVER!
A shy computer nerd who doesn't know how cute he is can be a really hot thing, but still I'm not looking for a one night stand or another notch on my bed post. People are not objects. Beautiful or ugly, cool or nerdy everyone has thoughts, feelings and a soul. I might be what some people see as a big cat, but love and mutual respect are the things that mean the most to me. I'm not a predator, I would rather die than be a predatory person!
So yeah, a man being a virgin is not a turn off for me, but at my age I might be a little suspicious. I would be less suspicious he was seven to ten years younger, and just left the seminary, because he decided not to be a priest after all or maybe was dealing with PTSD from some past hurt. I really appreciate honesty and openness, but it's also okay to hold back some things until people get to better know one another.
Well yes, I see your point. But, you would be only giving him temporary relief from his unnatural lifestyle that God never intended for heterosexual males. Confession is much the same. It is temporary relief from overly conscientious, strict, and petty expectations that a morally developed person would never worry about.
I agree that sexual healing for these kinds of people must be done carefully after trust and understanding of each other is established. Since you are attractive, and radiate healthy sexuality, at least give these priests caring personal attention. They need God's touch. Even Jesus got a hug every now and then.
Oh damn you got me all excited, but then I saw that you aren't a real virgin. Real virgin men are a turn on for me. Dude that just had bad sex a couple times is nothing special