Ladies and guys: do you think being popular is worth trying it?

I think of popularity like this.

Popularity is how well you are viewed by your peers. The thing is, you can choose who your peers are. If I view my peers as my small group of friends I'm very popular, but if I think of my peers as everyone around me then I'm not popular at all.

The best way you can be more popular is to stop caring about what people who don't like you think. Then you can be popular amongst the people you care about, which is really all that matters.

Did that make sense? :P

I've never been popular. I've always been ok with it. The popular people at my high school were total cunts...that's not what I aspire to.

Other than that, I generally prefer to not be noticed.

I came to the conclusion when I was still just a kid...be who you are no matter what the circumstances. That's where you'll find true happiness. :)

Growing up, I definatly was not what one would call popular. Infact, I was highly picked on because I was "different" from everyone else. I, at first, hated it because I knew I'd never fit in, but then came a point in my life where I realized being different was a positive. I embraced who I was, my "weird" attributes, and popularity didn't mean anything to me. I saw that being popular, being who someone wanted me to be and always being in the spotlight, watched to make sure I don't make any mistakes, was a life of unhappiness. But being who I was meant to be, regardless of whether people liked it or not, was the person I wanted to represent. I don't care about popularity, fitting in, or being plastic doll made by social norms. I'm proud to be who I am and I wish a lot of other people would come to the same conclusion. :)

Why would anyone want to be popular? Look at film stars. They need security men just to be able to live their lives.

Maybe...It depends on what you want from your life.Being popular equals many people in your life but only superficial or bad relationships with friends(if you don't get arrogant enough to lose them),lovers and perhaps with your family with extra doses of drama and so on...Being cool and laying low gives you much more possibilities and much less anxiety but with the danger of being unrecognised in short time...I would go with laying low, but i can't decide for you...

I don't think it's a good idea. Popular people are rarely the people they seem to be on the surface. And that's the problem, they are all surface.

What is being "popular", anyway? I never had that popular people thing on my high school, but it seems to be like these people others consider "popular" are just unhappy individuals who lie to themselves. I honestly wouldn't like to be that way.

Why don't you just be you? Just be friends with who you like, and if that leads to popularity, then so be it! And if it doesn't, then that's cool too, because you have your own group of friends who are right for you.

I don't recommend trying to be popular just for the sake of being popular.

I've never been popular so no I don't know if it's worth it but I had sex at a younger age that put me ahed but It was worth it geeting fucked to be popular that was awsome

Why do you care so much about being popular? Most popular kids are jerks

Forever Alone

Not entirely. I enjoy being liked an admired, I won't lie, but who I am to others will be defined by their parameters so there is little use.

To some, I may seem like a pretentious, overly-diplomatic, sarcastic asshole. To others, I may seem intelligent, compromising and humorous. So I guess the best way to achieve popularity is to get to know many people. Throw as much shit at the wall until enough of it sticks. But I just like talking to people and listening to people when the mood strikes me, so no.